A follow up from my older asklemmy post, saying goodbye to a teacher who helped me a lot through my stuff, was thinking maybe chocolate, but one of the dudes said that it’s not a very good idea, I was thinking maybe a perfume/cologne? What do you guys suggest? She is in probably in her early 20s if it helps, and I am in senior high, damn this is getting weirder and weirder, I just want to run away lol
As a teacher, just a letter or card saying how they impacted you is enough.
A heartfelt, handwritten thank-you letter telling them they’re a great teacher and how they positively impacted your life.
And an apple 🍎
This. My sister in law teaches and keeps all the letters she gets from her students. It’s stuff like that that keeps teachers going.
@fastandcurious don’t give anyone perfume/cologne unless you know them well enough to know what they wear.
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A card that has something meaningful about their teaching written in it.
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Since she’s early career, give written feedback to the school about what a great teacher she is.
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I don’t think you have to worry too much. A classic gift of a vibrator should probably get your point across and not get misinterpreted.
(Sorry, I had to, I know I’m dumb)
A fountain pen or a nice moleskin notebook with a note saying how her lessons will help you in your future life.
I think a perfume is too personal and might come out as a romantic gesture (and difficult to choose if you don’t know what she likes anyway).
A nice fountain pen seems like a good idea, Thanks!
As a fountain pen user, I would suggest against that unless you know it suits her personality. Fountains pens require maintenance, and certainly it’s easy maintenance, but it’s definitely more work than a ballpoint. They are a hobby, and if it’s is not her thing, she’ll never use it.
I would instead recommend a nice ballpoint pen set where the ink can be replaced when empty. Something she can use without having to think about or maintaining it.
Tbh I am kinda thinking of somehow giving some muffins, maybe go to school early, like ppl said, teachers have a lot of clutter so pen might not be the best choice
One thing I haven’t seen yet: if you can, loop your parent(s) in on this. They know the situation better than the Internet does, and if someone tries to turn the situation into something weird, they should have your back. And they’ve got some life experience to help you with your note.
Lmao at the perfume and chocolates. You somehow beelined to the most Valentines related gifts possible.
The suggestion for a letter or card saying how much they helped you is the best idea. If you don’t feel up to writing, then think about a professional gift, like a fancy pen or something to sit on their desk. Don’t spend a lot of money, that makes it weird. Less than $30.
I’m so glad we had this talk at this stage of your life before you gave your first boss a fine bottle of perfume and then had a bewildering conversation with HR, lol.
Unless you’re living in a horny anime I don’t think you have much to worry about with what they think. However, don’t give your teacher perfume—that’s insane and inappropriate for anyone outside of a romantic partner / close friend.
Write them a thank-you note and get them a Starbucks gift card.
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As a teacher, I treasure all of the heart-felt notes and letters students have left me over the years. If you want to give something that shows them how important they are to you, write them a letter.
SOURCE!
Edit: I guess I should clarify. I’m saying that this is the ultimate source as an answer to this question. I’m not ordering this person to cite a source. Sorry for the interruption.
As a former teacher, I’d never consider something a student bought me as a romantic gift, that’s just not a thing. Chocolates are nice, but echoing what someone else said, a nice card with a message is really special. I still have every thank you card my students ever gave me, and I once printed out an email a student sent me when they got their first job to keep. It just gives you fuzzy feelings to think you may have been helpful.
A thank you card and a gift certificate for food. Everybody needs food.
“Good for one food”
As another poster suggested: muffins and a nice card go a long way. Especially since few students show appreciation anyway. She’ll definitely appreciate the card and gesture more than any particular gift that you might include.
And definitely don’t do perfume. It’s difficult enough to shop for yourself, much less for others. Just don’t.
I just love any scent as long as it’s not too strong ¯_(ツ)_/¯, but I know people can be very picky, but honestly as long as I don’t smell sweat, I am happy
Fragrance is a very risky gift. Some people do not want that shit and don’t even want it around them. I get upset if I’m sharing a room with someone wearing too much perfume for too long.
My coworker is very sensitive to fragrances. I personally love a nice cologne, but I can’t wear the strong stuff around her without it bothering her. So I don’t.
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That’s a great idea. Or something else for their desk at work.
The public presentation of the gift reinforces the idea that the gift is being presented for their teacher role.
a pineapple. Can never be seen as romantic.
Never say never. I’d go on a date for pineapple
Unless you are into swinging. Then it’s very inappropriate
Gift certificate. That’s something that can NEVER be mistaken for romance.
