• nomadBanned from community
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    Being on time is about respecting other peoples time, not about obeying anything.

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      I’m a hyperpunctual person who had to learn to appreciate that just because some people have difficulty meeting a schedule it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t respect me. Some people have a lot going on, even if just figuratively speaking.

      Helped me to realize that even I’m not showing up on time out of a respect for other people, I just fear consequences. Ironically it really is dictatorship of the clocks for me.

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        Interesting. I always see it as “I chose to be there at the specific time, the clock helps us both respect the others time better”. Its a coordination device. Early in life we don’t choose the time usually, like school and job etc. So might come with a flavor of tyranny. Interesting

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          As someone with ADHD who is looking into getting medicated, I’m often late. sometimes its just because my brain made it very difficult to get up and start getting ready on time, other times it’s because i was going to be on time but one of a million things distracted me or required my attention and bam ive bled half an hour

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            Same boat. Never perfect but i do what i can. I plan a lot of buffer times for things to go wrong for important things.

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        This. When I’m late, it’s generally because of my health issues. If I can, I try to set meeting times so that I have at least a chance of making it on time, but my issues make planning rather difficult.

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    I had a mate who was consistently 15 mins - 3 hours late to everything. It’s rude to do that to your friends.

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      I have a friend that’s that way … her boyfriend at the time made her tell us why she’s always late for everything.

      Because I hate to wait on people

      Like bitch you’re making us wait Everytime we hang out… GTFO of here with that shit.

      Since then, We don’t hang out as much . And we now plan to be a bit late for everything with her.

      My wife and I have a toddler so that helps. Haha

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        She hates to wait on people so refuses to turn up on time, making everybody else wait on her? Jesus, what a nightmare. Does she think she’s the queen of england or something? 😂

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          Man for real. We love her. But we had to start telling her to be places upwards of an hour before she should be there.

          She’s one of those folks that would be like… “We are in the car” while she’s still sitting at home doing her hair.

          God damned annoying.

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        Nah, unemployed for a good chunk of time. Turns out, turning up consistently late to every job you have and constantly missing full days isn’t a great plan.

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                I didn’t realise psychiatrists were just out and about diagnosing people with “massive” mental health issues for being lazy 😂

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                  i ain’t a professional psych person of any stripe, and personally don’t put much stock in the concept of laziness, but if his “laziness” is hurting his relationships, and costing him jobs, well, that definitely sounds like something a psych would want to address.

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    Time is a social construct. People living under capitalist regimes are sensitive about having their time wasted because they need to sell their time in order to survive.

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      Idk I feel like time is also valuable when you starve to death if you don’t go hunting and gathering often enough…