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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • Judging by your posts you are in a very bad place right now and you’re struggling with a lot of issues related to your self image and your body. I’m not so sure that HRT will do what you want it to do. If your hormone levels are fine then your fat distribution isn’t likely to become any more feminine. If there is something wrong with your levels, it will be because of some underlying issue, in which case HRT could even make things worse.

    As a cis woman in the UK, you have access to HRT via a GP, which would enable you to get proper specialist support that isn’t readily available to us, and everything (other than your prescription) would be completely free. Superdrug & Boots also provide affordable private assessment & support for hormone issues that are exclusive to cisgender women. Handling this via a GP is something I really recommend. If you are unable to get an appointment in the morning, try calling anyway as they occasionally have cancellations available later on. If all else fails, 111 can make an Out of Hours appointment, either with your GP or with a OOH doctor, or they can refer you to mental health services for immediate support.

    Places like GenderGP are aimed at trans people who are currently unable to use regularly accessible services, and are significantly more expensive & less reputable as a result. They are also overburdened, with waiting times that significantly exceed a GP.

    If you do wish to take hormones DIY, I urge you to take things a bit slower and read up on how to do this safely. Research what HRT actually does and why, and be aware that we take regular blood tests to make sure our levels are okay. If possible, try to find resources specific to cisgender women, as they would be able to provide more guidance in ways that we’re unable to.

    I wish you the very best, and I hope you’re able to get the support you need.














  • I think many of us just stay away from locker rooms and public bathrooms as much as possible because we want to avoid being stared at or getting into uncomfortable situations with others making a scene. I’m no athlete, but I try to not go to public bathrooms and I plan my life accordingly. I’ve gone a few times and it has been problem free each time, but people do look at me as they go by because I don’t pass.

    How safe we feel going into a locker room is gonna depend on who we go with, where we go and how tolerated we are in that area, how confident we are, and to what degree we pass.

    If someone I know invites me anywhere which requires going into a locker room I’m likely gonna tell them no. Maybe I’m overly anxious and it would go just fine, but I’m not interested in rolling the dice with how people are gonna react.

    Edit: I do go to the gym, but like most people post covid I show up in my gym wear. I don’t think there even is a locker room there.




  • They only go after people sharing files, and typically only people sharing lots of files. Technically when you torrent you are sharing files, but they don’t usually go after regular seeders. Sometimes your internet provider might ask you to stop being a pirate but that’s the most likely bad consequence for a regular pirate. Direct downloads, streaming, and usenet doesn’t involve actual sharing of files and so is perfectly legal, or at least not something that has consequences.

    There’s also stuff you can do to make it less likely that your illicit activities will be detected, but that’s not something I know a lot about. I imagine VPNs can help with this sorta stuff.

    Your wife is right that some people do go to prison for this, but that’s usually people like the ones behind pirate bay and similar.

    I’m not a half queer half law person, so take what I have to say with lots of salt and pepper.