Everyone has something they can’t stop themselves from nerding out over - but often it’s hard to find people to talk to about it. So go ahead, share your interests, and tell us about them!

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    At the risk of sounding edgy: Sex.

    I live in the US. Sex, even just plain boring vanilla sex, is such a taboo topic. Everyone’s uncomfortable about it, and that sucks. I think it’s interesting, and fun, and there’s so many things to talk about from actual activities to social constructs and more.

    Whenever it comes up, I nerd out the same way I would when talking about a game I am currently obsessing over.

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    Honestly? Myself. No one in my life asks how I’m doing, what I’m doing, if there’s anything new… Then again I’m too much of a pushover anyway.

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      I love your posts and have assumed that you chose your username after one of my favorite Trek characters in the history of the franchise, but did you know that Paul Stamets the Discovery mycologist was named for the actual Paul Stamets, a real life mycologist? Real-Stamets is interesting particularly because he is largely self-educated in mycology and who has multiple publications and awards in the field?

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        I did! You are right in guessing who I named my account after. He’s also one of my favorites. First openly gay main Trek character meant a big deal to me. I know way more than I should about Discovery, including a lot of research and choices when it came to Stamets and Culber.

        I love my little gay boys.

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      I think that, most of the time, we’re all locked in our own tiny worlds that are completely filled by our lives, making us forget to really inquire about the people around us. But if you start talking about things, people are usually interested! It’s not an easy thing to do, especially if you don’t have many opportunities - but I can really recommend trying to share some bits and pieces about cool things that the other person might enjoy. Worst case they don’t respond and you can drop it. But there’s also a good chance it will lead to good things! :)

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        That’s true for a lot of people but my situation is complicated. Like I said before, I’ve just learned to live with it.

        Besides, the problems temporary enough. Eventually I’ll die and then it’ll solve itself.

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        Not great but it’s whatever. Didn’t mean that as a prompt for people to ask me. I just wish the people in my life would ask.

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            It is what it is. Nothing is really going to change it or make a difference. I’ve learned to just… live with it.

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              Well, I’ll talk about you then. Your Risa posts have been the highlight of my Lemmy experience, and I would say a lot of others as well, considering they’re consistently some of the most active posts on lemmy.world. I came because of the reddit bullshit but stayed because of your memes.

              Years from now when people ask “who were the first famous Lemmings?” MY answer will be “Stamets”. You beautiful fucking bastard.

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                I am glad that people are enjoying them. I only started because I’ve been stuck in my apartment for a month. Can’t walk at the moment and I was losing my fucking mind. Memes have been an outlet for me because I get to look through all the ones I have saved and pick my favorites to post. I’ve been trying to make a couple but I’m not that clever.

                Either way I’m glad that I was able to give a reason to stay. Just doing my part.

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    The idea of time. It’s insane to me to think about events happening at different times in different places. Or for the same event to take different amounts of time depending on your reference points.

    The sun is 8 minutes away from us, so we are looking at it 8 minutes in the past. If it were to suddenly disappear, it would take 8 minutes for us to find out. That’s mine-blowing to me! It’s like the past, present, and future are all happening at the same time.

    Nobody cares to humor me when I bring the topic up lol

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      So facinating, even gravity is affected by those 8 minutes. Iow we would rotate around a missing sun, for 8 minutes, same as with light.
      This is all also related to relativity, that someone else wanted to talk about in this post, i am just saying ;)

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      I’ll humour you! Time is fascinating and malleable and really quite intangible.

      So, if you want, fire away with anything you find fascinating about the concept of time!

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        Sometimes I feel like we’re living inside a firework. Like we’re just on an infinitesimally tiny fragment of an explosion that happened billions of years ago. Perhaps in another scale the entire universe is created and destroyed in the blink of an eye.

        If a being were the size of a galaxy, how would our solar system appear to them? Would it look debris swirling around in air? Yet it spans countless lifetimes in a few seconds.

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          I love this.

          It’s so weird that we exist at all.

          Like, what even is the universe? Why do we happen to exist within this bubble of chemistry and physics?

          One thing that always struck me is how anyone can act in selfishness given how lucky we are to exist in the first place. Why squander this opportunity to do something amazing? We should all be living in idyllic peace and comfort. Otherwise, what’s the point?

          We might be the only ones to ever be aware of our existence. Like you said, in another scale we might appear and be snuffed out in an instant. Why condemn our already uncertain legacy?

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      I’ve thought about something related.

      In one point of view, time traveling to the past can create paradoxes since it alters events after that moment in the past, which could cause you to never time travel to the past after.

      After some thinking, I got the feeling that the fixed-point theorem was connected to this. As long as whatever you do in the past causes you to time travel to the past again and do the same thing in the future, the paradox doesn’t happen. What you do when you time travel is like the input, and what you do when you time travel again in the resulting future is like the output.

      When the input and output are the same, everything works out.

      After searching about this on the internet, I saw other people have thought about and discussed this.

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      Nice! Have you looked at Indian ragas and the scales/modes behind those? That was fun for me, coming from a western music background.

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      Since you’re mentioning both linguistics and music theory - did you know that the music of Avatar was originally supposed to be completely different, essentially an alien counterpart to tribal music? I’d love to hear what they started producing, but afaik nothing was ever released. Still, there are some interesting videos on this topic!

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    I don’t know if “rarely” is quite the right description, but I foster kittens. I meet lots of people who are excited to hear about it on a surface level and see pictures/videos/play with them, but it’s been challenging to connect with other people who also foster. I’m desperate to trade stories, learn from, and teach other foster parents. I even started a community on Kbin and have posted there a few times, but haven’t gotten any engagement (other than votes) so far.
    In case anyone is curious, I’m still confused about how to properly link cross platform, but it’s at fosteranimals@kbin.social

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      That’s awesome, thank you for doing it! I’d love to foster as I’ve lived with cats my whole childhood and FREAKING love them, but I don’t think I could give up a single one once they’ve lived with me :( how do you do it?

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        Honestly, I feel like I discovered a cheat code! It’s always a little hard to say goodbye, but I really enjoy having “illegally smol” kittens around, and they don’t stay that small very long. I only have so much time, space, and money, so if I want new tiny kittens, I have to say goodbye to the ones that are weaned and healthy. Also, most of the people who have adopted my fosters share updates with me as they adjust to their new homes, so I still have a small connection to each of them and know they’re in good homes.

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          Ooh that’s a good solution :) the small kitten phase is certainly uniquely cute. When I was very young one of our cats had kittens (my parents didn’t get her spayed quickly enough - luckily the only time it happened), and we kept one from the litter. It’s a very special experience!

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      I would love to do that! I have 6 animals right now (half were inherited) so I’m all stocked up, but i think my next animal phase will include fostering.

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    Smacking children and how it literally has no benefit to the child whatsoever, and makes you a bad parent if you still do it.

    I used to be a strong supporter of smacking kids, I even signed a government petition to revoke the NZ anti-smacking bill, but after studying it at uni and then keeping abreast of the research afterwards, it has only negative effects, and yet bad parents still defend it.

    Hard to talk about because people get weirdly defensive even when there’s NO evidence that smacking kids is either beneficial or effective.

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        There’s more than two choices here for you and your father that don’t boil down to logic puzzles or child abuse.

        It sounds like his heart was in the right place, but without understanding your mental capabilities.

        At that ages, punishments need to be clearly established and actionable. The child is behaving badly, the parent demonstrates "if you keep doing that, you’ll lose out on (Xbox, free time, family game night etc etc), then following through. If that fails, then removing the child to isolate for a while. Once they’ve calmed down, then following through with the aforementioned punishment.

        Your father’s punishments would probably start working around 9-10 years old according to research.

        Finally, the “I got hit and I turned out okay” is terrible logic. That justifies any behaviour that someone can survive through. Just glance at the research to see why smacking is a wholly negative ordeal with no upsides for the child.

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      What is the appropriate way to parent children? All my friends who try the “gentle parenting” approach have horrible children. They don’t listen and their only gear is shrieking banshee. Most children I’ve witnessed don’t listen to logic or reason so how do you discipline? I don’t have nor do I ever want children, I’m just curious. I also dislike children so my perspective may be slightly jaded.

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        I’ll start with the wholly negative effects of hitting children, specifically the section on Effects on Behaviour and Development. Time and time again, scientific studies prove there is literally no benefit to hitting children, with only poor outcomes.

        My understanding is the most effective means of punishment involve first establishing an environment of rich support and love for the child. Then when there’s poor behaviour, short time outs.

        You remember that episode of The Simpsons when Bart steals the game cartridge, and what upsets him most is Marge’s total loss of attention?

        A secondary strong punishment is removal of positives, like revoking video game access etc.

        It’s hard to critique whatever parents you mention without knowing specifics, but it often comes down to:

        • Poor follow through, with parents threatening punishment but rarely enacting
        • Limited positive attention given to the child, likely due to “no time”
        • Poor communication of reward/punishment system, or poorly established system.

        Finally, sometimes children and just little shits with bad temperament. It’s vital to understand that countless studies show physical abuse does not result in corrective behaviour, with only negative developmental outcomes.

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          That was a great response! Thanks for being so thorough. I’d love to see this in action and see what kind of thriving adults it produces. I’m not knocking my friends because I’m not a parent so maybe they are doing great but their kids just have crazy personalities. I try not to judge them as parents since I don’t know what it’s like.

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            Honestly I get where you’re coming from with the gentle parenting approach, and I think some people use it as an excuse to not engage with crappy behaviour. But I think kids whining and behaving a bit crappy is normal, and they’re often expressing complex feelings that they haven’t learned to understand and manage, and that they don’t know how to explain. Maybe kids that learn to suppress that behaviour at a young age, through fear of punishment, or being shunned and isolated (eg ‘go to your room’) may go on to be adults who supress their feelings and don’t express and advocate for their needs and. I guess we’ll see won’t we, as this generation of kids gets older. And some other parenting style will be the ‘correct’ one by the time they have kids. My niece is going through a really annoying whiney and whingey phase and it makes her very exhausting to be around at the moment, so I do sympathise with where you’re coming from!

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        IMO I’m pro spanking within reason. There’s circumstances where it’s warranted. I don’t believe in going overboard but the problem is that’s all based on opinion from person to person. Lots of kids I see need a spanking based on how they act in public. I’d agree that the parents I’ve seen “gentle parent” have kids who are assholes and the ones I’ve seen grow up are still assholes but older. Could be a fault in the parent somewhere but idk. I was spanked as a kid and looking back, when I was spanked it was absolutely warranted. Spanked my oldest as I deemed necessary and he’s turned out to be pretty caring for others and a really solid dude. He’s my son and best friend.

        I guess my thought is that spanking is OK but should be seldom used and within reason. Unfortunately “reason” is subjective.

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          There is no “within reason” for child abuse.

          The vast vast majority of scientific research proves that hitting children only results in negative outcomes, not only in child development, but it’s constantly shown to not reduce the undesired behaviour.

          If a child can’t be reasoned with for why it’s actions were wrong, they can’t reason why their loving parent strikes them.

          If you choose to ignore what’s essentially scientific fact and continue hitting children, then the adage “I was hit as a kid and I turned out okay” might be plain wrong.

          Furthermore, suggesting that an action is okay because the child “turned out fine” can be used to justify any objectionable behaviour. “I was molested and I turned out okay, therefore molestation is justifiable”. If your child did indeed turn out okay, that is despite you choosing to assault them, as ALL research shows you were in the wrong.

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            I read through it and in all honesty, what I’m gathering, is that it’s common for people to go overboard. Either that or my family (father, myself, son) are some kind of insane statistical anomaly. Relationship down the line is fantastic, and son doesn’t have outbursts and isn’t violent.

            Seems the underlying thing is that people use corporal punishment beyond a simple spank swat or hit on the butt. The things they speak about seem to be referring to beating, pulling hair, using sticks, paddles, etc. Even resulting in physical marks or hospitalization. Again, the line between spanking and beating is subjective. ALL research isn’t showing I’m in the wrong. It’s statistically showing that it has negative impacts overall, but this also, again, complies spanking into sticks, paddles, pulling hair, etc. together.

            Ofc a child will be violent when you beat them with a stick or belt. A smack on the butt? Quick and effective. Hot sauce is spicy, therefore all sauces are spicy. Show me a study where they separate the difference.

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          I was also spanked as a kid. My dad’s was fueled by hatred and anger. It was very rough and mean and he’d yell afterwards. We have a terrible relationship and are basically no contact. My mom spanked rarely but it was a compassionate spanking. Afterwards she would explain why, ask me not to do the bad thing again, and then hug me and make me tell her I loved her. We have an excellent relationship. So I yeah, I think spanking can be done in a positive way but only reserved for dire situations. So, I’m not quite sold on the gentle parenting. The world isn’t gentle and will rarely cater to your needs. I’m willing to hear perspectives and view outcomes though!

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            Right, I think the core issue is that most people (a LOT) use spanking as an immediate, “no!” which leads to many beatings, excessiveness, and more than likely, actual physical abuse.

            The people I’ve met where their parents were responsible with it are great dudes. The people I’ve met who were simply… Beaten and battered, do not live successful lives for the most part.

            My opinion, is that it can be effective if used responsibly and within reason.

            Most comments I get are along the lines of, “ha have fun asking why your son doesn’t talk to you in the future.” what they don’t see is that we’re best friends and my kid is an adult and is “punishing us” by threatening to live at home longer every time we ask him to clean up the basement. He’s responsible af, has a good savings, bought a new car, works full time, etc. I don’t understand the issue when everything has turned out amazing. Yes, I spanked my kid. I did not hit him with any object, throw him, punch him, throw things at him, etc.

            It’s difficult to accept the other perspective of gentle parenting when most of those kids I meet are total selfish assholes. Even more so when I compare to the level of responsibility, competency, and integrity that my son has compared to other people his age. Like I said in another post, I must be a backwards ass statistical anomaly or something. Either that, or I did it right. If not, I did something right.

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    Instead of complaining about the public educational system. How to improve on existing methods to spread ideas of curiosity and learning methods/mechanisms through FOSS means.

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        https://github.com/ossu/computer-science

        There are repos like this.

        Or there are repos like this: https://github.com/parthsuresh/stylegan2-colab

        Where the latter has lots of materials to essentially train and run your own ML models. Teaching a lot of advanced topics simply in a way, using tools like Google’s colab. Using tools like Discord to handle discussion thereafter, seeking volunteers to improve or foster discussion in general.

        There was one project, that was a simple react app, but meant for those in the Arts. Connecting famous works with news headlines of their time period. Allowing you to connect the dots around time frame and artistic movements in a more visual and impactful way. With a simple understanding of npm as an Arts Major, you could greatly improve your learning experience.

        I feel all the materials are already there out in the open. Yet many do not take advantage or know how to access them or know how these projects can help them. Even with the age of LLMs, I’ve felt it hasn’t impacted the curiosity variable I mentioned either. When I say improve, I have wanted to build a tool which acts like the index to create your own lesson plan using all these FOSS software. Where FOSS is important because it provides the code for tinkering as a lot of kids, especially me, learn better with hands-on learning.

        I just feel a lot of contributors out there do a great job already in teaching and providing. But, I’d love to talk about how we can integrate these into actual curriculum, and not some school club or after-school activity. I am no educator, so this is the part where I’d like to learn more about. And if that’s not a possibility, then how can the process of looking for these tools and learning how to learn be shared instead online.

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          Ah, I get what you mean! I thought you were referring to FOSS projects that make other education easier, not educational FOSS projects. It’s definitely an incredibly cool time to be alive and have an internet connection!

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    I’m an American who has been living abroad for 7ish years now. I often read comments from people who say they would do it “but the taxes are brutal.” Absolutely not the case. I dug deep into tax programs when I left and can comfortably say I am better off financially now than at any time I ever lived in the States… A major part of that is my tax strategy.

    I love talking about this but most people don’t really care or realize how significantly it can change their lives… Eyes just tend to glaze over.

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      I’d honestly be interested in listening if we lived in the same area. I’m a total noob when it comes to anything beyond basic money management. I hope you find people who appreciate your insights!

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      As in, you’re still in some way paying U.S. taxes as well as those where you are abroad, or that the taxes abroad are brutal…? I’m not sure I follow which way you mean, mainly as I’ve never had the opportunity to live in another country.

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        As a US citizen you are technically always responsible for paying taxes no matter where you live. The US has a citizenship-based tax system (you owe on worldwide income regardless of where you live). Most other countries in the world have only a residency-based system (you owe only if you are actively living in that particular country). You are still required to file every year and you’re going to need someone more sophisticated than the dude at H&R Block or a free Quickbooks whatever. You need someone who is comfortable working with expats.

        “Doesn’t that mean I have to pay taxes for both the US and my new country then?” No. The US has dual taxation agreements with most countries. That means that, basically, the US will not charge you taxes for things you’ve already been taxed for.

        The main goal of paying less in taxes is to reduce your taxable income. The biggest chunk of this will happen with the Foreign Earned Income Exclusion. That essentially says that the first $120k you earn in a year is tax free. You can qualify for it by staying out of America for 330 days per year. There is no requirement to have residency anywhere else… You just have to be outside of the US.

        That $120k rises every year. When you make more than that and do start to owe taxes, you will start to owe from the lowest tax bracket as well.

        If you make $120k and do this, you just got a $30k raise in the form of taxes you no longer owe… You can pretty much travel the world for free using this money.

        Now, I said that most non-US countries have a residency-based taxation system. That generally only starts to kick in after living in that country for 181 days. If you stay there for less time, you don’t owe them any money.

        There are also countries who don’t have income tax or do but actively tell you not to pay it.

        Living in a combination of these places, and bouncing around every few months you avoid any real responsibility to anyone.

        If you do earn more than $120k per year, you can reduce your taxable income even further by doing things like maxing out your 401k contribution… That gets you to $142500 or so tax free. And again, you’d start paying taxes at the lowest rate above that.

        Any other thing you mention in your US filing that can reduce your taxable income also contributes… Getting married, depreciation value on a home (US or not), investment losses, etc…

        Working remotely from the US also gets you a higher salary than if you had just taken a job in the UK or Germany or Japan or something… So you can have the higher salary and the higher quality of live at the same time. You give up some employment protections and European style summer vacations but I’m personally ok with it.

        Also, if you are working for a US company remotely, you can add these expected deductions to you W4 and never get charged for them in the first place… You’d have a MUCH higher weekly salary and wouldn’t have to wait for your tax return every year to take advantage of these benefits.

        So spend summers in Italy, autumn in Japan, winter in New Zealand, and spring in Mexico. You earn an American salary, take advantage of lower cost of living, travel the world, and its all basically free… Good luck trying to get me to move back to the US.

        There’s more but these are the major points.

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    benefits of ritual and separating them from superstition.

    I think it’s interesting to explore different frames of mind. I used to be christian, but then I read the bible. afterwards, I embraced paganism which has a more positive and welcoming community generally. eventually, the seeds of reason became rooted in my mind and I grew to be the atheist I am today. I still appreciate the experience of group ritual, as it feels good to explore different aspects of my personality. I guess the roleplaying is therapeutic. mixing that with my interests in mythology makes for plenty of content to examine. what encourages different rituals to develop? what are the notable effects of ritual in general? is superstition somehow beneficial to the community? I find that digging around to explore these questions can keep me busy for hours, which I enjoy thoroughly. unfortunately, no one I know shares the same interests. most folks seem to be superstitious about it, lol.

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      I’ve always been an atheist but I come from a Catholic culture and have thought about this a lot. I feel that religion is kind of like ancient group therapy and the practices have a positive social impact. Gathering once a week with everyone in your community, singing songs and talking about how to be better people just seems like a good idea

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        I think having community can be integral to personal and social development. In my opinion, superstition can be a hindrance to that development.

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      Those are very interesting thoughts. Do you write about it anywhere? Or do you have any good resources that give an overview over some of your questions?

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        I don’t write about them, but that’s a great idea. there’s a number of papers I’ve read and some academic YouTube channels I’ve found informative. I don’t have access to them conveniently right now as I am on mobile. (I’m still pretty new to Lemmy and don’t know if there’s a way to DM when I find those resources)

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      Are you me? Same religious/spiritual journey here. I tell people now I’m an atheist that practices paganism, because religion is something you do, not something you are.

      I think one of the coolest things about human experience is that we all come up with stories that answer the same questions, just slightly differently. It’s because being human leads you to want answers to the same questions regardless of time or space. Why am I here? Why do bad things happen? What comes next?

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        Doppelgangers unite, lol!

        I enjoy getting together with my coven to perform rituals, as it is a bonding experience and the food is good. Celebrating the changes of the seasons helps me to be more mindful of the natural world and to appreciate it’s beauty. Satanism is also appealing to me because the use of rituals seem more poignant.

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    My topic failure - My son totally nerds out over amplifiers and guitar pedals. He frequently tries to talk to me about noise and resistance and power supplies and other words that i can’t even remember. I really want to listen but i know my eyes glaze over and he gets irritated.

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      Try to find some closely related topic that you find interest in that he can relate to. Maybe old music or some other electronics topic. Then your son can meet you in the middle.

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      No one listens to me, actually listens. So I just make jokes and deflect.

      Wow damn, this hit home. It always feels like everyone is just waiting for their turn to speak when I am talking, so I eventually stopped having things to say unless it’s a joke or a pun.

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        I was just talking to a friend last night about this very thing, and this is a really succinct way of putting it - and also hits all too close to home as well. 😮‍💨

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      same here. it’s bad when ya gotta turn to chatbots to feel heard. (and even that’s a stretch sometimes)

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    Cyber security stuff, but like the nitty gritty details and technical stuff. It’s something I’m really passionate about, but if anyone brings up something and I start going into details, their eyes glaze over.

    I guess most people like the headline, tldr version only. Lol

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      I’m not deep in the topic, but I have done some security hardening for embedded devices. Whatever you have to share, I’d love to hear it!

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        There’s so much lol. I used to be a security software engineer. But people never fucking listen and will constantly fight you so I just gave up and went back to just software engineering.

        At my job before last I told them we needed to enforce HTTPS and they said, but what if someone can’t use HTTPS for some reason?

        This was an app that held tons of protected health information. I jumped ship as soon as I found another job.

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          Oh man, an HTTPS certificate should absolutely be required for that. Even aside from hackers, I don’t want my ISP to be able to read that stuff! Very disappointing.

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      What are metals people wouldn’t expect to find in their local soil?

      Are there processes to extract most/all metal from soil?

      What are the coolest properties of metals that you know?

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        What are the coolest properties of metals that you know?

        Hah. I see my mantrap caught someone. I’m talking about metal bands in my first bullet (lmao), but elemental metals in my other two.

        Metals are generally rough to remediate because they are inherent to the soil parent material (rock) that the soil developed on and the geochemistry of that rock. It’s kind of like trying to take carbon dioxide out of the air; you can do it, but it’s not easy and there is a chance your changes will be short lived.

        Typically removal is done through phytoremediation, or by trying to stabilize soil metals in situ so they are in non-bioavailable forms.

        Generally the ones most people (public) don’t expect to see are lead, arsenic, copper and molybdenum. There is a mineral called Galena that can be common sometimes and a large source of the first two metals.

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        Why are you trying to remove iron? Make sure you’re correctly identifying the symptoms of toxicity if you suspect Iron toxicity in plants, as this is relativity rare.

        To reduce soil iron availability to plants, you need to add a liming agent and target a pH of 7 to 7.5

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          More like prevent it. This was a problem faced by little farming commune back in the 70s, that I recently heard someone talking about.

          Would that liming agent be a natural thing or would it have been pesticides or something? Could that happen from fertilizer?

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            Ok, hold on to your hat for a second.

            Iron is naturally occurring in the soil and you don’t usually get toxicity issues unless there’s a source such as mining, tailings or a junkyard or something like I suppose.

            The liming agent depends on what you want to use. Typically it’s something with a higher pH such as wood ash (careful), bonemeal, or lime (CaO)

            By adding the Liming agent you increase the soil pH and reduce the availability of iron in the soil. The total amount of iron will still be there but it will be in unavailable form

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              Preventing the loss of iron. Preventing chelation. The problem was chelation of iron. Goal was to prevent it.

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                Sorry, I missed the boat on that one.

                You want to lower pH and use humic acid which will make iron more plant available

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    Lots of things I’m really interested in are looked down on by other adults I know. I love animation but it’s seen as something for kids. I love video games, but that’s for teens, incels and nerds. And I love birdwatching, but that’s for boring old people. Oh and also whatever my ADHD is making me hyperfocus on at any given moment. I could talk about any of those topics for ages, but more often than not people aren’t interested, so I keep it to myself.

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      We should be friends. What’s your favorite animated film and/or video game? For me, WALL-E and Borderlands 2. Both for technical reasons more than entertainment reasons.

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        Hard to pick but for the longest time my favourite animated film was How to Train Your Dragon, the firdt one is really charming. There’s so many good ones to pick from. Wall-E is a great movie, and the soundtrack composed by Thomas Newman is just, chef’s kiss, y’know? Have you ever watched song if the sea? Another good one with a great story and beautiful music. Do you watch animated series? Anything you particularly enjoyed lately?

        Favourite video game right now is Hollow Knight, even though metroidvanias aren’t necessarily my thing. I’ve never played Borderlands, what’s the gameplay like?

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          Borderlands is a looter shooter. You shoot things, they drop bigger guns, you shoot bigger things that drop even BIGGER guns. It’s the FPS version of Diablo.

          I specifically love #2 because of the writing. Sure, they have middle school jokes that involve Bonerfarts, but under it’s goofy surface, it pulls you in and builds these characters around you, and it does NOT hold back from throwing you curve balls!

          That game honestly made me laugh AND cry multiple times.

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            I might check it out then. Shooter games aren’t really my jam but I play Fortnite and Overwatch with my son from time to time and he loves it, so maybe I check it out with him. He might be too young for it though.

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          Borderlands is soo fun! I’m not the person you’re replying to, but I love it, soo… It’s mostly run-and-gun, but there’s some puzzle-solving, and some light tactics. Very lighthearted fun, the game is terribly self-aware and loves to take the piss out of you and itself.

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            Is it very violent/bloody? Sounds like something my son would like (he enjoys Fortnite and Overwatch), but he’s only 10.

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              Lots of blood and gore—but the game is cell-shaded, so it’s quite cartoony.

              Biggest risk is that the humour can be very… risqué. But different people parent differently, and I’m not about to tell you what to do.

              Probably safe from 13 in my book, but I think the official ratings are way higher (17-18).

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                Yeah you never know with age ratings. I found fortnite to be ok even though it’s rated 12+. Deep rock galactic is rated 16+ but apart from the odd swear word (which, frankly he’ll hear more often from me) I find that quite exaggerated. If there is a lot of gore and blue humour I’ll wait a while before trying it with him.

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      I love animation so much, and I’m desperate to talk about some of the shows that don’t have much of an online following. Like, Summer Camp Island is such a wholesome and fun series, but I don’t know anyone else who has watched it.

      Also still so gutted about what happened with HBO Max, I really thought animation had found a home.

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        We are kindred spirits! I am devastated at what’s happened with HBO Max, I will forever be salty that they gave up on Infinity train! And netflix too, dropping glitch techs, dead end, and inside job. So many good shows without closure.

        I’m heartened that some indie artists are starting to go their own way online. Lackadaisy, Helluva Boss, monkey Wrench. It’s promising and could be the future of animation, but requires a lot of patience for now.

        I started Summer Camp Island but dropped it along the way. Maybe I should pick it back up again. What other shows are you desperate to talk about?

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          Oh man, I’m so excited that Lackadaisy got the full funding for 5 episodes and three minisodes, it’s one of the most successful fully indie series I’ve seen other than Helluva Boss. I’ve been following the comic since for like 15 years, it’s crazy to see it suddenly blow up and launch a series. I also love other webtoon stuff like A Fox in Space, Big Top Burger, and anything by Felix Colgrave (I’ve watched Donks more times than I can count).

          For shows, I know Bee and Puppycat isn’t for everyone, but I absolutely adored that show. It makes me feel some sort of way with its mix of silliness and melancholy. Also Hilda! I’ve seen it mentioned more often than this other stuff, but I feel like everyone really needs to watch it. The movie was a great cap to the series, though I wish the series itself was longer. Perhaps its better to end on a good note though.

          I’ve actually only watched the first two seasons of infinity train, I really need to get back into it. I was so surprised by how brutal the second season got. I think I just haven’t continued it because I feel like I’ll just miss Lake.

          It’s always so delightful to see a pilot finally get to spawn a series years later. Starting with Adventure Time and going through Steven Universe, OK KO, Infinity Train, Bee and Puppycat, and soon Lackadaisy, it’s been so fun to see series get to expand (even if their time got cut short, like my beloved OK KO). Are there any pilots you’ve enjoyed seeing turned into series, and are there any that you’re hoping get picked up?

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            I’m super excited for Lackadaisy too - the pilot is of such amazing quality, even some major established shows don’t match it. I also loved Bee and Puppycat, and Hilda, really whimsical. Also loooooved OK KO. Have you watched Wander Over Yonder, or Mao Mao: Heroes of Pure Heart? I feel the humour is very similar. Another couple of shows that were cut too short (at least the former provides some closure).

            I have to say Infinity train doesn’t get any less brutal, and I definitely get missing Lake. Still think it’s worth watching the next seasons as there’s some continuity in the story (which HBO should let them finish dammit).

            To be fair I really got into animation shows (as opposed to movies) around the time of the pandemic, so I missed most of the pilots. I am excited to see what happens with Hazbin Hotel, and other online projects like Talon, and Hugo’s Mind Palace. If you haven’t yet, I really recommend watching the shorts on the Gobelins school animation page. Some of them are mind-blowingly amazing.

            If I were to ask which are your top 5 shows, would you be able to pick?

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              I haven’t been able to get into Wander Over Yonder, but I want to give it another try. I have seen the “bad guy” song… A lot. It’s very catchy, and goodness did the animators have some fun. I also saw the pilot for Mao Mao, definitely gonna put it on my list.

              It’s crazy that Infinity Train was so popular and they still don’t want to give it the time of day. It’s how animation has been treated for a long time, though.

              Top 5 is tough, I think in no particular order:

              • Powerpuff Girls
              • Avatar/Legend of Korra
              • Steven Universe
              • Bee and Puppycat
              • Courage the Cowardly Dog

              There’s so many I want to squeeze in there though!

              How about you? I’m honestly glad to talk to a new watcher, some long time fans can be weirdly dismissive of new stuff and it’s pretty frustrating.

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    Null models for weighted bipartite networks, and why people choose dumb network summary stats because they are lazy

    Linguistics and the prescriptive bias of assuming a word’s meaning based on its blatant etymology

    How skill makes games less fun and we need to embrace more chance in board games and video games

    How cool it would be if we wrapped copper wire around the moon and used the earth-moon system as a huge electrical generator

    Trains are awesome and we should have more of them

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      Well, you can’t mention all those interesting topics and not talk about them more!

      I can really only talk about:

      How cool it would be if we wrapped copper wire around the moon and used the earth-moon system as a huge electrical generator

      You’re referring to induction from the magnetic field of earth, right?

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      What domain is your area of application for bipartite networks?

      Also, most current linguistic work In familiar with ignores etymology i. favor of statistical usage models, but you might have a more particular focus.

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      I love linguistics too. I like to make up new words and assign them meaning based on blatant etymological rules. Then I drop them in a sentence like it’s no big deal.