• garbagebagel@lemmy.worldEnglish
    641·
    3 days ago

    I know this is a joke but just cause someone is in a straight relationship doesn’t mean they’re straight. (But it’s not like we have a shot either way lmao)

    • JadenSmith@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      14·
      3 days ago

      I’m a biological man, who didn’t start dating women until his 20s.
      I was into guys first, and then later I began understanding my pansexuality in regards to it all. Perhaps just by coincidence I was around the guys who I’d be attracted to, rather than girls when growing up.

      My last few relationships have been with women, however I wouldn’t class myself as straight. Ever. If anything one of my exes used to love putting makeup on me and she was happy that she could practise contouring on me.

      People are complicated. What goes on inside is sometimes a battlefield of anguish, which takes time to consider and overcome.

      (I’m agreeing with your comment, just thought of adding my experience alongside)

        • JadenSmith@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          2·
          1 day ago

          I think someone downvoted you, it was not me though I just wanted to mention.

          I apologise if I provided that impression, it wasn’t my intention. The truth is I try to be honest at times, and when I get stoned I tend to not think before I type and so sometimes the words I use are the immediate ones I’m finding relevant to use (I hope that makes sense, I took an edible some time ago and it’s hitting me a bit hard and I’m doing my best to explain). This is also combined with another thing, the reason why perhaps the words I found relevant to use to describe my experience is due to the biological male part being on my mind quite a lot lately.

          To clarify, as you did ask: in recent times, at 37 years of age, I have come to realise that I have always been non-binary since as far as I can remember. From the age of 4 I would question, with great confusion, the divide between male and female gender norms and, fast forward to today, I truly don’t think I ever felt as though I belonged in either group.
          It’s rather difficult for me to describe, however I never quite felt as though my thoughts, my inner feelings, ever reflected those of either male nor female yet somewhere wobbling in-between. Therefore, whilst I am biologically male and quite accepting of this, I do not quite feel as though I can call myself a man. This has been on my mind quite a lot lately, partly as this realisation has been rather freeing in some ways and I am slowly coming to accept myself for who I am, which I am trying to get some confidence about. I have also been thinking a lot about my life, and my behaviours over the years, etc.

          I hope this answers your question. Please let me know if I left anything out.

          • Nat (she/they)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            1·
            17 hours ago

            Ah okay, so AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth)? I was like 70% sure you said “biological” to specify it was because you’re not conforming to your assigned gender, so good to confirm that is the case! Sorry if this caused some stress, just wanted to check this wasn’t a real dogwhistle.

  • MrKoyun@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    2 days ago

    Can someone please tell me what this community is actually about? I’m very confused and the community description didnt help.

    • funkless_eck@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      14·
      2 days ago

      some people lived in an apartment - apt 195 - and made a subreddit on reddit. it got popular, and then shut down and so they made a 196 as the “next” one

      the rule of the subreddit was that when you visited you had to post something- anything - before leaving. That’s it.

  • AllNewTypeFace@leminal.spaceEnglish
    14·
    3 days ago

    This reminds me of a cartoon of an alley in ancient Athens with the defamatory graffito “SOCRATES IS STRAIGHT” scrawled on the wall