Oh my god I’ve got so many 😭

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    One teacher allowed girls bathroom breaks without a question but not guys and we thought it was bc girls can’t hold pee in since they don’t have dicks.

    If you can’t tell sex ed doesnt exist in this part of the world

    Hell that’s not even sex ed but anatomy ig

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    I learned in college (from my nurse girlfriend) that if a girl is taking antibiotics that it invalidates her birth control pills for the month and you need to use condoms until after her period.

    Spread the word, brothers.

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      That’s not really true.

      Sure it’s true for rifampicin and rifabutin (and maybe one more similar one). But those are used to treat TB.

      All the standard ones you’d take are fine for birth control.

      Edit: Thanks to some people who are more knowledgeable than me on the topic, there are some others, or secondary effects you should consider.

      Moral of the story: if in doubt ALWAYS use more contraception. Best to be safe out there.

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          It’s easier to tell people to just use a rubber when on antibiotics rathern than explain to them that it’s only for some unpronounceable substances for most of the population and have them memorize a list of substances for which it’s safe to go on as usual - azithromycin is safe, amoxicillin is not. They may sound fairly similar to a layman.

          It’s because some substances (in this case, antibiotics) mess with the units in your body that process them and prepare them for excretion. They may inhibit or induce them, but these units process a whole load of other stuff. Including birth control, which can lead to less activity from the birth control pills because they’re inactivated quicker (in case of induction) or the biotransformation to the active form is slower (in case of inhibition, for prodrugs that are inactive as is, but have active metabolites, no idea if this is the case for birth control though).

          A similar thing happens with alcohol, for example, which is why you should always be honest with exactly how much alcohol you drink or what other drugs you take when talking to an anaesthesiologist, or any doctor prescribing you any sort of medicine, lest you risk ineffective anaesthesia or treatment (the first one is worse imo).

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            100 % agreed. I was just being pedantic I guess. Sorry for that.

            I really should have said ALWAYS use more contraception if you’re unsure about anything. Best to be safe.

            Good thing about this is now I have some interesting things to read up on.

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          It may be? I found a few references from like 2019, but as someone else posted above, there’s a lot more to consider than just the antibiotic interfering with the birth control. Digestive tract things. Definitely take a look at the post I’m referring to.

          But as I SHOULD have said in my original post, ALWAYS use more methods of contraception if you’re unsure. Best to be safe.

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        It has two components. While Rifampicin and Rifabutin (and Penicillin,Amoxi and a few others) are directly showing effects on the contraceptives drugs effects, there is another factor that shouldn’t be underestimated: ABs can and will cause digestive symptoms, fastening gastric passage and that alone is known to reduce the effectiveness of hormonal contraceptives countless times.

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          That is true. I didn’t think of it from that angle. I haven’t read too much into that. But now I will. Thanks for the info.

          For the record, always use secondary contraception if you’re in doubt. I should have said that in my first post.

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    That the vagina is way lower than a lot of people depict it. A lot of my anatomy exposure when I was younger was hentai, and it turns out hentai artists don’t really know where the vagina is either. The ones that put the vagina as the little sister of the belly button on the woman desperately need to look up their Year 9 health book.

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      Ah yes, the first time you reach your hand into a girls pants expecting to find things where your penis is… and you get nothing, and you try to play it off casually but in your mind your freaking out thinking she’s a real life Barbie doll.

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      So true. I had some real surprises when I first got to explore the anatomy of an actual girl, despite having had reasonably good sex ed in school. Not that I got my information from hentai though, that just wasn’t a thing at the time.

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      Yep, I used to think that vaginas were exactly the same height (proportionally) as the penis, such that intercourse could technically be achieved by walking straight towards eachother with the penis held high. It cerainly was an interesting exploration the first time I attempted to find my way.

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      The target audience of that type of shit generally won’t ever know the difference.

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      Its sort of similar with your ass. Its always portrayed as “s-shaped” sorta and/or sideways (like a tailpipe on a car) when its…sorta more…south originating and facing than fhat…ya

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    Believed this until I was like 16 and so did everyone else in our school.

    A girl did anal and got pregnant and since it was anal that got her pregnant she was gonna poop out the baby. Funny thing is I was part of the group conversation that started this rumor and STILL we all believed it.

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    If, after puberty, you can’t easily retract your foreskin over the head of your dick (it also shouldn’t hurt), you have a very unhygienic problem called phimosis.

    It can be self cured with regular stretching but sometimes you will need a doctor to prescribe a steroid cream to assist with this, the worst cases can require circumcision.

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      I had this problem until I was 19. I couldn’t retract the skin because it was so painful. I had a very short frenulum so I couldn’t even masturbate. I went to a doctor, he said I should circumcise. DO NOT circumcise your skin. There’s a much simpler operation where you just cut and remove the frenulum. I learned this from Google, the operation lasted 15 minutes and my recovery was extremely fast

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        remove the frenulum

        Damn, you had the male clitoris removed? That really sucks, I feel for your loss :-(

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              It’s actually the whole penis. The glans is only the glans of the clitoris. The other parts (internal) of the clitoris, in the case of a penis, are the whole shaft.

              The labias (the large ones) are your scrotum.

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          It was that or no sex at all. At least I got to keep my skin, so the sensation stayed the same. When you are circumcised you loose a lot of feelings down there

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          Uh, no. I mean, only get surgery if you must, and mutilation of babies is wrong, but that is not the male clitoris.

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      Yes, someone I knew had this. He actually bled because of his foreskin ripping when he lost his virginity when he was 30 or something.

      We were on holiday with a group of friends at the time, we shared cabins in groups of 6. One morning we came downstairs and there were sheets hung up in the living room. We asked what happened, he said he had a nosebleed and bled on the sheets. Later we found out from the girl he was with they wanted to have sex, he was a virgin and when they tried his foreskin tore and bled all over everything. Of course by the end of the week everybody in our extended circle knew.

      They wound up married, even though they were 10 years apart in age (she was 20 at the time, as were most of our group, he was the older brother of someone in our group). Now he’s a fat lazy fuck without a job and the wife has to take care of their two kids, the house and has a job. They still married though, even if the wife’s complaining about him all the time. So all’s well that ends well I guess.

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        She should have realized he was lazy since he didn’t even bother to retract his foreskin.

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          A bit TMI but I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian household (aka super sexually repressed) in an abstinence only sex education state. My parents decided not to circumcise me or my brothers, my dad is apparently circumcised because neither of them told me how to clean down there or that foreskin even goes back. It was never once mentioned during any sex ed, anatomy, etc. classes in school. I had no idea that foreskin was even supposed to go back or that merely getting it wet in the shower wasn’t good enough until I was 17. I had frequent irritation down there and I just thought that’s how it was supposed to be. 4chan of all places taught me about phimosis and proper hygiene.

          Not to excuse the guy in that posts’ shitty behavior but for some people they are told literally nothing about their bodies or how to care for them and so long as it doesn’t put you in the hospital, it’s something you’re unlikely to learn out in the wild. There may very well be people reading these posts that are learning how their genitals are supposed to function right now. I was one of them at one point

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          Assuming that he knew that you need to retract the foreskin before penetration. Not something you really think about when it doesn’t retract at all.

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        Maybe it’s fine in your case. For some people it’s so tight that their pee shoots out sideways, any amount of self care is not going to be able to clean sufficiently under there.

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      Well, I have that, the thing is, I clean my dick (while flaccid) multiple times a day.

      I dont care because im a bottom so is not a problem for me.

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          It can also lead to priapism if you somehow (through great pain, I’d imagine) manage to retract it and the tight part becomes stuck during an erection. If not treated in time the lack of circulation leads to necrosis.

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        What is your cleaning method? I learned way late in life that fully drying after a wash is very important.

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        It’s rather unhygienic if you can’t retract it and wash under it. Dead skin and other stuff tends to build up and form crusts.

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          Not being able to retract it has nothing do with being unhygienic - poor self-care is what is what is unhygienic. Just use a shower head and mild soap if necessary and you’re all good.

          Source: I have it, I get a checkup done every year and it’s been fine. No buildup or issues whatsoever.

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            Maybe it’s fine in your case. For some people, it’s so tight that any amount of self care is not going to be able to reach the parts where smegma collects.

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    I had to explain to a girl that no, we should not have sex while you have a UTI. She was in her mid 30’s.

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      Worked in an ED/still work as a paramedic occasionally.

      You don’t want to know how many times I had to explain this shit to a grown woman, sometimes 30y older than me.

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        So if one partner has a UTI, the other partner could get the UTI (even asymptomatically) and they could keep reinfecting each other in a hilarious game of tag.

        Or if one partner has multiple partner they could spread the UTI around, even if they are asymptomatic.

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    Until about halfway into my teens, no one told me that periods were painful, or involved behavior altering hormone releases. I thought my sisters were becoming moody & rude for no reason. I was generally aware of the concept of periods, but not of the broader effects. I feel I might have been much more sympathetic had I known.

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      Well, it’s a spectrum. I worked with a woman that was spending the whole time in our office laying on the floor during her period because how painful it was. But I’m also married with a woman that doesn’t have any symptoms at all and when asked about she said the only annoyance was having tampons ready.

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    The hymen is not normally ripping at the “first time”, but these myths come from brutal men that have no compassion and dont know how to make both people horny.

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      Breaking a hymen when you first have sex is indeed a myth, but so is the idea that sufficient arousal will prevent tearing every hymen.

      Hymens come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and elasticities. They can tear from many things but most people with hymens are quite likely to experience minor tearing or bleeding the first time they have sex. That’s especially true if the hymen is particularly large or thick and if you haven’t torn it before the first time you had sex.

      That’s the last myth, even if breaking a hymen was a real thing required for sex, it doesn’t say anything about virginity because many girls tear it in childhood and puberty from a variety of activities as innocuous as swimming.

      https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/health/period/what-is-hymen-and-how-it-changes

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          My gf bled the first 5 or 6 times we had sex. It definitely heals.

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          That’s true to some extent. Any stretching will return to nominal state in fairly short order, and tears certainly heal. However it never goes back to it’s “pretorn” state, and I wouldn’t think anyone would want it to, a lot of hymens don’t allow significant penetration of foreign objects (or body parts) in their original states. The article I linked has more details on that in a few different sections.

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        The Team that Invented the Birth Control Pill - The Atlantic

        https://archive.ph/enn5j

        He told Rock to have his patients stop taking the pills for five days each month. Their hormone levels would return to normal, their symptoms would ease, and they would have their periods. Rock liked the idea. It would make the pill seem more natural, like a scientific version of the rhythm method.

        So yes, your right, the sugar pill was added to help people count the 5 days of no hormones correctly.

        But the only reason for the 5 day hormone gap in the initial recommendations was to make users feel more natural, and not think they were pregnant.

        Though the history is fascinating, always worth a read!

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        The pill works by tricking the body into thinking you’re pregnant. There is no reason why you could not take the pill (with hormones in it) for nine months straight.

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      Sometimes they recommend you go three months without a period. Apparently it can be healthier. And the body doesn’t really know any better after you’ve got used to it.

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      yup! I have endometriosis and was on the pill continuously ages 15-18. It doesn’t work out for everybody, but it was a lifesaver for me. Debilitating symptoms went bye bye, and pretty soon I was back in school (after a few months’ absence).

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    Mine was “Not all women like being touched the same way”. As in, some women can’t reach orgasm from penetration alone, but some do. Some want direct pressure on their clitoris, some do not. And this all makes sense, not everyone likes the same things.

    And that is, for me at least, where the fun is. I like to figure things out. I like to see how stuff works. And women are pretty awesome. What would be a better evening than figuring out exactly how to pleasure someone, through communication and experimentation? I’m still finding ways to push my wife’s buttons 14 years later.

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      Sucks when the person doesn’t like to communicate with you and just ignores her own issues to just satisfy you.

      I was less satisfied because I wasn’t allowed to figure it out and just felt like a bad person. The sex drive went down for her after a year, no wonder, but its not my fault either.

      2 years later and I broke with her up as she was pretty manipulative and impossible to talk to from the beginning.

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        the number of times a girl has been taken aback when i take a moment to ask “so what gets you off?”

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        Sounds familiar. I wasn’t doing it practically at all for my ex, and I could tell, but she refused to acknowledge any problem. Like, she wasn’t cumming. She said she was.

        I remember the literal one time I made her cum she said in this sort of surprised voice “I … I’m cumming”.

        It’s not that orgasms were new to her. It’s that because I wasn’t pleasing her, she assumed I had never pleased any woman and that I didn’t know the difference. So she just lied, and went to find other men to get her to cum. As in, just cheated on me to get what she needed.

        That hurt extremely bad. Hearing that something’s not working for my partner is slightly deflating, followed by exciting again when whatever we changed makes it work. Hearing (implicitly) that I’m too hopeless to even be notified of the problem, fucked with my head badly.

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    I did not understand orgasms or realize I wasn’t having them with my partners until I finally did have one. 😂 I genuinely didn’t understand that it could feel that good until it did.

    Another win for abstinence-based sex ed in rural America!

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      That is a win in their perspective. For those types, sex is something a woman lets her man do to her. Her pleasure is not even secondary, it isn’t even a consideration.

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        Tbf, they theoretically would rather men didn’t get any pleasure either, and procreation happened by holding hands after praying.

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      Ever meet a true fedora-tipping gentlesir that insisted that feeemale orgasms can’t exist because there would be no biological purpose to them?

      They’re out there. expert-shapiro

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          The way I’ve seen logiclords explain it, it’s because male orgasms result in sperm ejaculation, and feeemale orgasms do not, therefore feeeemale orgasms have no such contributing factor to conception therefore they have no reason to exist. kubrick-stare

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      How does one not know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like??? Like did you never masturbate or anything (I feel rude saying that, pls feel free to ignore the invasion of privacy).

      But also being on reddit taught me that this is smth many women have gone through

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        In my experience it’s women who squirt that are more likely not to know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. They’ll definitely feel good, like edging, then get to a point where it feels like they’ve overstimulated themselves to the point of peeing the bed and stop. Not realizing there’s a “getting over the hill” moment to an orgasm.

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    well my sex ed consisted of a man who would later that year get fired for hitting a student telling us that premarital sex will result in pregnancy and then having us perform a play I can only describe as racially charged about the subject

    after being fired he went on to become a far right politician

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    Let me just say here how much I appreciate the sex ed I got in school.

    I’m talking life-size cross-section models of a human torso that you could take individual organs out of for closer inspection.

    One thing we still didn’t learn much about is how wildly different periods can be for different people, I very much appreciated a friend explaining this to me.

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        Different people can have different cycle lengths, durations, and intensity/pain/flow during ones period.

        All those things can also vary for the same person month to month and it can get even more variable as you move between life events (having kids, getting older).

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      Agreed on period variation. I remember my teacher telling everyone women didn’t lose more than a teaspoon of blood over the course of a period and I was so confused because I could be sitting over the toilet and losing a teaspoon’s worth in 2 minutes. But no, apparently I was misjudging the amount.

      I felt vindicated when I later bought a mooncup and it would fill up in an hour 😆

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    I didn’t understand the concept of a climax until it happened. The first time crankin it I remember mid way through thinking “I don’t get it, so if I keep doing this it just keeps feeling better and better infinitely?” When it happened it was one of the most stunning moments of my life.

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      Until my first ejaculation, I thought the only time something came out of my penis was when I was peeing. I was so surprised when something else came out and holy shit there was so much of it everywhere. I didn’t know that could happen and it made a mess all over my surroundings.

      Last minute addition: I thought a woman could get pregnant if a man licked between her boobs. This was before my first ejaculation.

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        I had my first real ejaculation while I was sleeping as a kid. The one time I slept over at my grandma’s. She never said anything but boy did I have impecable timing.