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Now you need to try bottoming to see if you don’t like that. Maybe what you hate is being the top 🤷🏻♂️
Its the only way to be sure!
This is logical and healthy imo. To be straight does not have to mean absolutely hating any sort of gay sex, just not being into it. I think that society makes as believe that straight means the absolute opposite of gay, when really all sexual preferences are one big spectrum and you can be a straight man who is willing to try gay things but not enjoying them.
An ex (casual) once told me about her ex that “He needed to suck enough dicks to realize that it wasn’t for him.” A little on the crass side, maybe, but she wasn’t judging him for it and it’s perfectly valid. We’ve only got one life to live and not experimenting with one’s sexuality, if so inclined, is kinda silly.
I am straight, so i’d have to first have sex with a woman to figure out if i dont like it, THEN try with a dude to see if thats better.
Same.
Although… having a disappointing hookup with some rando doesn’t sound not gay.
No, this isn’t logical at all. Even queer people have unsatisfying hookups for various reasons.
Being queer isn’t just about enjoying a certain type of sex, it’s about being attracted to a certain type of person. If you’re questioning being straight, presumably it’s because you think some men are kind of attractive. Find a man like that, meet up with him, and see how things go.
Picking a guy on grindr and only describing him as “kinda feminine” isn’t how you get to enjoyable sex. Where is the initial attraction that you’d feel if you’re into men? The buildup of sexual tension that you’d feel if you’re compatible? The discovery of how different types of sex acts feel? You need to go through these steps to actually find pleasure. I’m surprised that so many comments on this post don’t seem to understand this.
Absolutely yes IMO. Straight is not the same as never experimenting. A test run makes sense if you aren’t sure. He fucked and found out quite literally.
I would argue your sexuality isn’t necessarily something you already were when you were born and you have to figure out, i would say words like gay and straight are words to describe other what you desire and what you don’t desire. If you’re curious and haven’t decided which words fit, just take more time and try more things. On the other hand, if you now figured something out you can now have words to describe what you do and do not want in life.
I support your journey wherever it takes you.
That’s the spirit.
You need to top and bottom at least once for a valid opinion.
You need to do it regularly for several months at least to really understand the culture and determine if it’s right for you.
Right, what if that prostate massage has your legs all shakey?
You could still not be gay, just into pegging.
Fun fact this is how I learned a coworker pegged her husband. He wasn’t gay, but had no interest in topping her either. C’est la vie.
I don’t know why, but it seems weird to call it topping when it’s hetero. It’s like cultural appropriation or something.
Pegging doesn’t feel as good as the real thing, though. I would rather have a real penis in me than a plastic rod with a rubber penis over it, and I’m not gay.
Idk, sounds pretty gay. Or at least bi. But what do I know.
Many pegging tools don’t look like a penis. No head, no buldges, etc. Just a curved cylinder with a half spherical top. Just to hit to prostate, and that’s it.
True! And what a way to find out you’re into pegging.
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I mean, it’s still accurate as to whether you like performing murder. You might not like murder as an idea or as a thing that people do, but until you try a murder, you don’t know whether you will enjoy the act of murdering.
Oh fuck now I’m confused. I don’t know what I should do this weekend, eat some broccoli, fuck a dude or murder someone.
Ohhhh I think I have a plan…
I think it’s valid either way. “I’m not attracted to men, thus I’m straight” is as valid as “tried it, didn’t like it, thus I’m straight”
And works the other way around too, I imagine many people who define themselves gay have had romantic or sexual experiences with the opposite sex, but didn’t like it.
Agreed. I’ve kissed two boys as like dares but didn’t like it and I can acknowledge a guy is hot without being turned on by them so I think I’m comfortably on the straight side of the spectrum.
I’ve read all of the comments, at this point, and absolutely no one is actually replying to the question OOP posed. It’s impossible to get a straight answer out of any of you.
Glad I slogged through that until I got to the pun. Nice work!
Is that a joke?
Gay people often have straight sex when they are unsure about their sexuality. As society becomes less homophobic I’d expect more straight guys to experiment with other guys.
If a man does anything that’s not approved by the strict regulation of the council of his male friends then they are gay. Its simple, there is no need to over complicate it by introducing sex.
My friends said it’s only gay if our balls touch.
That is the standard definition.
Well there’s also keeping your socks on, not making eye contact or saying “no homo” just afterwards too. So I’d say that there’s no “standard definition” but many variants.
A man is also gay (and has a small penis) if he rejects the advances of a femcel. At least according to femcels.
Men are also gay for going down on women, for some reason.
Damn! I must be a massive queen then.
Calm down DJ Khaled.
I’ve been around a while and that’s a new one on me.
This explains a lot
I mean, you did a gay thing, but only to try it. I smoked pot a few times, didn’t care for it. Don’t smoke pot and haven’t in years and years. I am not a pothead.
How many marijuanas did you smoke those few times? You might die one day.
All of them.
You are addicted to the pot now
Totally a pothead. /s
