Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.

What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand

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    I grow to dislike the concept. Notice how it focuses only on the one who wants to pursue a sexual/romantic relationship, as if platonic relationship is somehow lesser. Why don’t we ever hear about the “sexual zone” or “romantic zone” about people who desire a deep platonic relationship with someone but who are placed in the “sexual/romantic zone” by that someone? It hurts to be previously friends with someone who gives you the cold shoulder once they find out you don’t want to fuck them. Why should the sexual zoned person’s feelings perspective and feelings be cast aside for the friend zoned person’s feelings and perspective?

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      It hurts to be previously friends with someone who gives you the cold shoulder once they find out you don’t want to fuck them.

      I guess in that case there was never really a friendship to begin with.

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      Why don’t we ever hear about the “sexual zone” or “romantic zone” about people who desire a deep platonic relationship with someone but who are placed in the “sexual/romantic zone” by that someone?

      I think the kids are calling this a “situationship” these days.

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        A “situationship” is an ambiguous dating relationship where one person maybe wants to get serious and the other doesn’t want to talk about it. Risk factors include “short-term open to long” in tinder bio