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  • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    5 months ago

    Rolling my eyes into the back of my head when I see transfems on reddit unironically saying hrt changes sexuality

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    • charly4994 [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      Saw people talking about it on trans forums back in the late 00s and how it was a real thing and it freaked me out. Being over a decade into it at this point though I’d argue my sexuality is not different but I just know more details about it. At 16 it’s pretty easy to be like “I like girls,” paired with internalized homophobia and transphobia then going “I like girls thus I’m only into cis women.” Once you take a hammer to some of the foundational parts of your identity it’s a lot easier to reexamine some of those broad statements you made as a teen and find that maybe you’re a bit more flexible than you thought or sometimes you push a bit too far and find that actually you’re still not into guys even if they’re easier to hit up because chasers are easy early validation when you’re stuck in a dark place.

      • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        There’s no basis for it at all. Transitioning just generally helps people realize things about themselves they may not have before. Some people get very weird and defensive though when it’s pointed out that HRT doesn’t do that shrug-outta-hecks

        • lapis [fae/faer, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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          to be fair, this may feel like one’s sexuality being changed by HRT, especially for the more extreme cases where someone’s sexuality fully flips after they come to terms with their gender. and then when you mix in the average redditor level of self-awareness…

          for instance, it took me accepting myself as nonbinary and opening up to my own emotions via HRT to also accept myself as a lesbian who could aesthetically appreciate the male form, rather than a bisexual man.

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            i think maybe its more that they need a rationalisation for why they were seemingly unengaged with their sexuality previously - also that a lot of people generally lack self-awareness of their sexuality, especially if you spend your time pre-transition trying your hardest to fit the mold

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          I haven’t heard anyone say that HRT doesn’t change sexuality before but I sure hope it doesn’t. Suddenly being no longer attracted to women might be the one of the few things that would make me detransition.