• @ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
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    116 months ago

    Many guys don’t realize but a spectrum lady is perfect. They get to the point, tell you when something is wrong, and are excellent listeners. They also have incredibly complex hobbies that seem really simple, like knitting or baking, that can pay off for helpers around them as snacks and gifts. If you ever felt you didn’t find the person who speaks to you, think different.

      • DessertStorms
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        286 months ago

        As someone who is a spectrum lady, yeah, we’re not a stereotypical monolith…

      • @captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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        6 months ago

        Yeah my wife has been playing minecraft for two weeks lol. Someday she may pick up one of those valuable hobbies, but idgaf and I’m not betting on it

        And yeah, don’t skip on autistic women, I love two, but don’t fetishize them either

    • @henfredemars
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      246 months ago

      Those attributes are an important part of what I like about her! Very direct, very plain to a fault. She has never and probably will never have an interest in playing interpersonal games. Zero drama. Loyal, because she doesn’t like change. She’s obsessive in her interests meaning we both easily get sufficient time to be our own person.

      Sure, she’s exceptionally sensitive about certain textures and sounds, but I understand because I’m the same way. Meeting her was like living a life where everyone speaks this language that I just wasn’t born with, and finding someone else who is just as confused as I am was really validating.

      So yes, I suggested that we marry, and she says yes you will suffice… which is perhaps the highest compliment she has ever paid me.

        • @henfredemars
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          126 months ago

          Haha, well, I told my family that a person has to get to know her. She seems bitter at first but that’s just how she is. Besides, they don’t have to live with her. I do.

          Not using her outward appearance, countenance, or facial expressions as indicative of her true feelings is part of the package. It takes getting used to, and it’s not right for everyone.

          “Sufficient” is her elation.

          • @Rolando@lemmy.world
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            26 months ago

            she says yes you will suffice…

            FWIW that totally made sense to me. When I read that, I caught my breath or my heart skipped a beat or something.

    • Sagar Acharya
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      16 months ago

      What in the world is a “spectrum lady”. I have some friends who’d be interested in this adjective being assigned to a lady!