Today we'll be going into the eternal mystery, why do guys play as girl characters? Males tend to play female avatars for a Varity of reasons, so let's go ov...
I play girl characters in games far more than I used to, but I mean, I don’t think I’m uncomfortable with my assigned gender(?)
However, I wouldn’t be truthful here if I didn’t admit that I’ve started to question how comfortable I really am with living life as a man. I can’t tell if there’s something about that I don’t like, or if I’m just dissatisfied with life in general right now. Or both.
One thing I do know for sure is that girl characters are just more fun to look at. Seriously, my favorite Tav on BG3 is just the most beautiful Amazonian tiefling, I love her so much
If by “neat” you mean very painful because generally once that egg cracks various feelings get worse and worse and worse and worse until something is done about it… I sincerely hope they have a good network around them if that’s the road coming.
seconding what you’re hearing that questioning is good. It’s easy to see an AMAB man-identifying person expressing discontent with masculinity and immediately start the “TRANSGIRL ” posting, and a lot of folks do. I will say that what you’re thinking are very common thoughts that shortly pre-transition folks have a lot, but that said, your gender journey, should you decide to have one, is yours, and while you should lean into what you hear from your peers, you do you. If you think there’s a chance you might be transfem or otherwise gender non-conforming, I’d recommend digging around here https://genderdysphoria.fyi/ (long) and this https://medium.com/@cassielabelle/gender-dysphoria-isnt-what-you-think-6fdc7ae3ac85 (short), and seeing if anything resonates with you, but bear in mind that there is absolutely nothing universal here and lots of the experiences are things that cis people can feel too.
At the end of the day, this reply gets it right - you can try things out and you’ll be all the stronger for it. I never played as girl characters, but here I am, several months into E and at transfem levels, but at the same time I’m going to the gym and curling/benching and keeping stubble on my face - there’s no right answer and there’s no right process besides taking everything a la carte and embracing things that bring you joy while setting free things that don’t.
Questioning is good! I love when folks take the opportunity to explore their gender. Even if at the end of it you find you are in fact cis, you are deepening your knowledge of yourself and your gender identity.
Honestly, I think the world would be a better place if everyone took the time to do that.
All the best to you in the new year!
Thank you so much, you as well! And yeah, this has been a weird, difficult year for me, and it’s come with a fair bit of introspection for sure. I finally admitted to myself that I’m bisexual, though I’m already committed and haven’t been able to really explore that yet.
At any rate, my most honest answer that I can give right now is that I’m probably cis, but not terribly interested in performing manhood traditionally. How far and in what fashion I want to break away from that is something I haven’t yet figured out. But I might also on some level be conflating those feelings with the deep envy and yearning I feel when I see the solidarity between women, particularly trans women, and other queer people generally. It’s made me realize just how lonely I’ve been for so many years. Part of that is on me, I’m terrible about putting myself out there, but I suspect it’s also to do with manhood generally. Whatever the case, I really am tired of it.
… deep envy and yearning I feel when I see the solidarity between women, particularly trans women, and other queer people generally…
This is another common trans thought. Doesnt necessarily mean anytjing though either. Gender envy isn’t entirely within the realm if trans, it just manifests differently.
Best way to know is to try acting on gendery thoughts you would normally suppress, if touve been suppressing stuff. Experimentation is key to ajy self discovery.
If you’re sure you’re cis, the point of experimentation might be lost on you, or at least not particularly appealing on some level.
It’s pretty hard for me to imagine what I would look like lol, tall and burly and hairy as I am now, but certainly nothing about that possibility bothers me. I’ve always preferred the company of women. Totally not incriminating myself further here, I know
If youre comfortable with being a man, but not with the totality of masculinity, demiman and GNC are options. Ive been thinking I might be a demiman as my bio states.
I’ll have to give that some thought myself, but of course, in the best of all possible worlds, we would redefine what masculinity even is, as it’s clear that many aspects of traditional masculinity are harmful, to us and to everyone around us
I play girl characters in games far more than I used to, but I mean, I don’t think I’m uncomfortable with my assigned gender(?)
However, I wouldn’t be truthful here if I didn’t admit that I’ve started to question how comfortable I really am with living life as a man. I can’t tell if there’s something about that I don’t like, or if I’m just dissatisfied with life in general right now. Or both.
One thing I do know for sure is that girl characters are just more fun to look at. Seriously, my favorite Tav on BG3 is just the most beautiful Amazonian tiefling, I love her so much
so it begins
you have a very neat road ahead of you
If by “neat” you mean very painful because generally once that egg cracks various feelings get worse and worse and worse and worse until something is done about it… I sincerely hope they have a good network around them if that’s the road coming.
yeah
yeah
Penny for your thoughts?
seconding what you’re hearing that questioning is good. It’s easy to see an AMAB man-identifying person expressing discontent with masculinity and immediately start the “TRANSGIRL
” posting, and a lot of folks do. I will say that what you’re thinking are very common thoughts that shortly pre-transition folks have a lot, but that said, your gender journey, should you decide to have one, is yours, and while you should lean into what you hear from your peers, you do you. If you think there’s a chance you might be transfem or otherwise gender non-conforming, I’d recommend digging around here https://genderdysphoria.fyi/ (long) and this https://medium.com/@cassielabelle/gender-dysphoria-isnt-what-you-think-6fdc7ae3ac85 (short), and seeing if anything resonates with you, but bear in mind that there is absolutely nothing universal here and lots of the experiences are things that cis people can feel too.
At the end of the day, this reply gets it right - you can try things out and you’ll be all the stronger for it. I never played as girl characters, but here I am, several months into E and at transfem levels, but at the same time I’m going to the gym and curling/benching and keeping stubble on my face - there’s no right answer and there’s no right process besides taking everything a la carte and embracing things that bring you joy while setting free things that don’t.
egg prime directive, comrade
Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
fuck the prime directive
YEAHHHHHHHHhhhh
Questioning is good! I love when folks take the opportunity to explore their gender. Even if at the end of it you find you are in fact cis, you are deepening your knowledge of yourself and your gender identity. Honestly, I think the world would be a better place if everyone took the time to do that. All the best to you in the new year!
Thank you so much, you as well! And yeah, this has been a weird, difficult year for me, and it’s come with a fair bit of introspection for sure. I finally admitted to myself that I’m bisexual, though I’m already committed and haven’t been able to really explore that yet.
At any rate, my most honest answer that I can give right now is that I’m probably cis, but not terribly interested in performing manhood traditionally. How far and in what fashion I want to break away from that is something I haven’t yet figured out. But I might also on some level be conflating those feelings with the deep envy and yearning I feel when I see the solidarity between women, particularly trans women, and other queer people generally. It’s made me realize just how lonely I’ve been for so many years. Part of that is on me, I’m terrible about putting myself out there, but I suspect it’s also to do with manhood generally. Whatever the case, I really am tired of it.
This is another common trans thought. Doesnt necessarily mean anytjing though either. Gender envy isn’t entirely within the realm if trans, it just manifests differently.
Best way to know is to try acting on gendery thoughts you would normally suppress, if touve been suppressing stuff. Experimentation is key to ajy self discovery.
If you’re sure you’re cis, the point of experimentation might be lost on you, or at least not particularly appealing on some level.
talk to trans women more (you’re not weird for doing so btw, asking questions to find your identity isn’t a bad thing)
If you woke up tomorrow as a woman version of you, would you be okay with that?
It’s pretty hard for me to imagine what I would look like lol, tall and burly and hairy as I am now, but certainly nothing about that possibility bothers me. I’ve always preferred the company of women. Totally not incriminating myself further here, I know
What counts is how comfortable you are with yourself
and idk ya can change a lot with HRT if you’re interested:
(all AMAB to female hormone treatment)
If youre comfortable with being a man, but not with the totality of masculinity, demiman and GNC are options. Ive been thinking I might be a demiman as my bio states.
I’ll have to give that some thought myself, but of course, in the best of all possible worlds, we would redefine what masculinity even is, as it’s clear that many aspects of traditional masculinity are harmful, to us and to everyone around us
Yeah i go back and forth between “im a demiman” and “i strive to be a positive represination of nontoxic masculinity”