See a counselor together. There’s obviously something causing a trust issue, and it’s probably completely minor. A counselor can help you sort it out. My wife and I saw one years ago and it was awesome. We’re on a great path now but often I wish we still saw one with some regularity.

Your analogy about the phone is spot on. You’re not doing anything wrong but do you really want someone seeing your search history about “how long do hemorrhoids last?” Hell nah.

This question belongs in r/relationships I think.

I had the desire for cameras inside and outside cause live in not the worst but not the greatest area. My SO had no real issues with it so we went for it. A few weeks later I noticed myself going into a deep state of depression and it took me a while to realize that the inside cameras was making me very uneasy, feeling like I was being watched. Being a veteran with PTSD there were likely other things that contributed and made the matter even worse but really I felt like I wasn’t even living in my own home. I started tip-toeing, opening/closing doors slowly, and being as quiet as possible just for example. In retrospect this all feels a little dramatic but beforehand I never considered any of that being a possibility and it ended up making me feel a way I didn’t like of course. You need to talk with (not “at”) your SO about what they want and why they want it and then express your concerns whether that’s your feelings, emotions, safety, and/or something different with your SO. Discuss how there could be impacts not yet realized too. There is compromise here if some level of psychological safety is practiced on both ends.

I understand OPs hesitations.

I have done the following

• camera firmwares have been tweaked and are now local only and stream to my Home Server and all other access from other devices is blocked
• external access only via VPN. No Apps, no cloud etc
• notifications are sent over the cloud but hold only an alert, no Screenshots
• cameras are turned off when me or my partner are within 100m of our home. I did this with a simple USB switch so the cameras are getting no power at all.
• persistent notifications Camera On on different devices.
• using a good Firewall and a SIEM to monitor devices, traffic and access.

Maybe OP would be OK with a similar setup. I had wanted to use cams for presence and person detection but my partner vetoed that pretty quick.

lol wtf is wrong with you. maybe try to talk to your goddamn husband before asking stranger on the internet why he is doing something?

If you are arguing a lot and having burst of anger moments maybe he wants to record it as a proof.

I personally don’t see an issue whit a proper security setup in home with exclusion to bedrooms. But end of the day, you don’t need to ask strangers if you should be offended, thank to your men.

I’ve had indoor cameras for years mainly to keep an eye on pets, they are completely powered off when anyone is home.

Maybe it’s just me, but my primary concern with this is actually the child. I don’t think it’s wise to video a child in their own home, they aren’t an adult and cannot consent. There are SO many things wrong with husband wanting to do this, but the one thing that sticks out is the kiddo.

We have cameras all over our house. But, whenever anyone is home, they have no power. We physically cut the power to all cameras.

We use the cameras for monitoring our home while away, mainly to detect fires or water leaks.

There are cameras with lids that open physically, so the view is blocked when it’s off. When it’s open, it means the camera is on.

So if you allow a camera in your living space, look for one with a lid

Did this for super accurate presence detention (using frigate) and running automatons. But neither I nor my wife were even vaguely bothered about the very remote chance that someone would go to the trouble of hacking the camera and watch us having sex or walking around naked.

for outside of house it be good but y he need inside of living room ?/

Have you asked him why he wants this?

Outside only I reckon. No need, unless you are away on holiday. Otherwise set it up so it turns off when you are home and only comes on when you leave, so it’s a security camera then. Why does he want it?

For some reason the vendors seem to really push interior cameras. I personally don’t want that either (excluding things like a baby monitor). Maybe he has just bought into the add that it will somehow keep your family safer? It is easier for sure.

Have you discussed it at all? Just say you wouldnt want to see yourselves online somewhere if you get hacked. I assume it is ring or wyze or blink or similar….

Offer alternative. Like exterior door cam or something if he’s being protective.

There is no way I would agree to that.