• ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    27
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    1 year ago

    And you’re what’s called an outlier.

    I applied for a loan. I was told I don’t have a high enough credit score by the bank. So now I’m paying rent instead of a mortgage.

    • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      5
      arrow-down
      42
      ·
      1 year ago

      Imma be honest, I’m not from the US so I have only a superficial knowledge of what a credit score is, but I’d reckon that’s something you can affect, no?

      • ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        40
        arrow-down
        4
        ·
        1 year ago

        Then why tf are you commenting at all???

        That’s like jumping into a support group and being like “damn that sucks have you tried not having that happen to you?”

        If it doesn’t apply to you why tf are you even here?

        • jmanes@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          17
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          1 year ago

          Seems like a humble-brag / flex / punching down to me. I don’t buy that they are totally ignorant to what they are saying.

        • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          3
          arrow-down
          38
          ·
          1 year ago

          Just saying that despite the memes it’s completely possible for a normal dude to buy themselves a home. I believed the meme until I tried. The more people I get to try buying a house, the more people get to buy a house, making their lives better and landlords lives worse which is a great win-win in my books.

          Why fall into despair when there are things you can do to help your situation is what I’d ask you, knowing full well you didn’t answer the question I laid.

          • Schmoo@slrpnk.net
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            34
            arrow-down
            1
            ·
            1 year ago

            The problem is that you’re being extremely naive and ignorant of the rapidly worsening material conditions the majority of people in the west are experiencing. Your suggestion that “there must be something you can do to improve things, why are you whining?” comes across as tone deaf and dismissive.

            People are struggling to keep their bills paid, and most are doing everything they possibly can to try and improve their situation, yet are still failing to keep their heads above water. It’s like someone is screaming “Help!! Help!! I’m drowning!!” and you’re screaming back “I’m swimming just fine, isn’t there something you can do to stay afloat? Why are you panicking?”

            • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              3
              arrow-down
              21
              ·
              1 year ago

              “there must be something you can do to improve things, why are you whining?”

              If the “why are you whining” part is how it came across that’s on me. I meant it more like, “there are always possibilities to improve upon your situation and that is always a better option than falling into hopeless despair which merely keeps you misery”. And no I don’t mean just get a fifth job lmaoo, but literally anything that’s reasonable and realistic.

              Nipping off anything off your budget so you can get 20 bucks saved a month is a better option than giving up on the dream of owning a house.

              Unionizing for a better pay to get 20 bucks saved a month is perhaps a bit more provocative option but an extremely healthy one at that.

              You get the jist. Like I said to the other fella in this comment tree, I’ve been reading into credit rating system during this convo and yeah I start to understand where the high emotions come from.

              • Lightor@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                11
                arrow-down
                1
                ·
                1 year ago

                That $20 a month you’re saving up dries up really quick when you get sick or hurt and have medical bills that can lead to debt. Most people in America can barley survive month to month, there is no saving. Not to mention saving $20 a month would take you 500 years to afford a cheap 120k house. You sound like someone who has never faced actual financial hardship beyond “I should eat out a little less”.

              • Cryophilia@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                7
                arrow-down
                1
                ·
                1 year ago

                there are always possibilities to improve upon your situation

                This is the fundamental thing you’re not getting: sometimes there’s just not.

          • Lightor@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            11
            arrow-down
            1
            ·
            1 year ago

            You just said you don’t know the US housing market or what a credit score is but you feel confident in saying people can just buy themselves a home.

            Also the more people that buy houses the less supply there is, which means there’s more demand, so house prices go up even more.

            Yes, people can just fix it. And depressed people should just be happy. And sick people should just eat healthy and work out. You are beyond naive.

                • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  arrow-down
                  4
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  You just said you don’t know the US housing market

                  Sources on this claim. Or, do you not find it hilarious that you base your opinions on stuff you literally made up? Like actual headcanon

                  • Lightor@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    2
                    ·
                    edit-2
                    1 year ago

                    So when you want information you have to pull up your big boy pants and ask for it.

                    Well 2 really jump out and illustrate my point, lets see, you said:

                    I doubt that’s the case in all of the US, there must be places with more modest prices.

                    There must? I mean you just admit in that sentence that you don’t know but you doubt (based on nothing), then go right off into an assumption and using that assumption ad justification.

                    Imma be honest, I’m not from the US so I have only a superficial knowledge of what a credit score is

                    So you’re not from the US, which means you lack knowledge by just not knowing the laws, culture, systems, etc. But you then go on to say you only have a superficial knowledge of what a credit score is, a VERY large part of buying a house.

                    You don’t know fundamentals of how buying a house in the US works but you feel confident in telling people that you’re really helping them out by saying “Buy don’t rent” like it’s some huge revelation.

            • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              1
              arrow-down
              9
              ·
              1 year ago

              You just said you don’t know the US housing market

              In this comment you state you’ve read my every comment, yet I missed this one, care to point it out for me? Throughout the convo I was looking for dope houses on the market, many of which were totally in the range of around 150k. That one guy bought a big lot for less than 50k.

              Anyway you sent like 100 comments over the night, mostly with points I’ve already addressed so I’m not gonna reply to most of them. I am perplexed about the perceived hostility towards me, surely your landlord is happy knowing full well their walking-talking rainy day fund is out there defending them and making sure the situation never changes. Buying into this doomer-propaganda is exactly what lets your Lord to live a happy and fulfilling life. Make no attempt to change it.

              But in all seriousness, I know how nice it is to crawl into misery and feel defensive when someone tries to nudge you out. I’ve never felt THAT defensive but despair is very addictive. I’m just saying that if there are things to do to improve you life and reach your goals, you are probably better off doing them rather than sperging out on randoms online.

              • AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                6
                ·
                1 year ago

                You’re being a cheerleader at the edge of rapids butthurt because your chant of “be aggressive” isn’t actually helping the drowning people feel better.

                • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  arrow-down
                  5
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  a cheerleader at the edge of rapids butthurt

                  This reference flew right over me mate. Also, I never intended anyone to “feel” better, but to do better. A concerning amount of pro-landlord hysteria out here to be quenched, how people perceive it is really not my prerogative.

              • Lightor@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                1
                ·
                1 year ago
                1. Never said I read every comment you made, I said “reading all these comments” which is very diffent.

                2. I didn’t send 100, it was like 3. Yes you addressed them, just extremely poorly, so I called them out again.

                3. I’m not defending any landlord, I’m just calling out your naive and uninformed statements. You even admit to ignorance on topics you’re speaking to. I own a house guy, I don’t know what angle you’re trying to play lol.

                4. I’m not in any sense of despair, like I said I own a house I love. You’re problem is you assume, just like you assumed I have a land lord and don’t own a house. You assume people have just given up, you can’t even fathom the concept that it is unattainable. You have this boomer mindset of “if you work hard enough anything and everything is possible” which ignore reality and the very real obstacles it has.

                • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  arrow-down
                  4
                  ·
                  1 year ago
                  1. Lmao keep dodging boy
                  2. I mean, considering you are literally making up claims, it’s hard to address anything without resorting to same
                  3. You’re only defending the stuff landlords want you to defend
                  4. I’d ask for sources on that too, but knowing you, you’d just say I said it without backing it up with a source.
                  • Lightor@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    ·
                    1 year ago
                    1. Keep dodging? There’s nothing to dodge lol. You misrepresented the statement and I corrected you. I get you may not like being wrong, but it doesn’t make you less wrong lol.

                    2. Making up claims? Like you saying I made 100 comments when anyone can look and see that’s factually wrong? Or do you mean more vaguely making up stuff, like how you admit you don’t know how credit scores work but think people should be able to buy houses, which rely on credit scores, a thing you don’t understand?

                    3. I hate landlords, nice assumptions and reach though, but super transparent. 2/10

                    4. A source for what? That I own a house? Sure, I’ll show you proof, right after you show me proof that you own this magical house that was super cheap and easy to get.

          • Cosmic Cleric@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            2
            arrow-down
            5
            ·
            edit-2
            1 year ago

            knowing full well you didn’t answer the question I laid.

            They never answer the question you asked them, instead they just yell at you, telling you how bad you are for asking the question.

                • AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  2
                  arrow-down
                  3
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  That would be because the question is as ridiculous as asking a blind person why they don’t just open their eyes so they can see.

                  • Cosmic Cleric@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    English
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    That would be because the question is as ridiculous as asking a blind person why they don’t just open their eyes so they can see.

                    Just because you may judge it is ridiculous doesn’t mean it actually is ridiculous.

                    If you’re having an intellectually honest conversation with someone, and they ask you a question to make their point, you really are supposed to answer it and not avoid answering it.

                    By avoiding answering the question you basically signal that you can’t answer the question for whatever reason, not that it’s not worth answering, and that your side of the argument is weak.

      • ironhydroxide@partizle.com
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        11
        ·
        edit-2
        1 year ago

        Affect, sure. In the same way that one can affect having rich parents who support you, thus making it easy to be rich yourself.

        Being poor is fucking expensive, and the credit score system is a big part of that.

        • buddascrayon@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          7
          arrow-down
          2
          ·
          1 year ago

          The credit score system is the yoke upon which the millennial/zennial generation has been shackled while Gen X and Boomers ride the wagon of home ownership and comfortable living due to not having to deal with that bullshit in the 70’s, 80’s, and 90’s.

          • Duranie@lemmy.film
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            9
            ·
            1 year ago

            I was born in 1971. I can’t speak for all of Gen X, but my experience growing up in the 80s is that I was presented with “everything’s fine, you just need to get a job and it’ll all work out.” So that’s what I did, and got nowhere fast. Married too early to the wrong person because pooling our resources seemed to be the only way out, then still struggled to get anywhere. Everything pointed to “I guess we’re just not trying hard enough.” Follow this with depression, divorce, working multiple jobs at a time to keep a roof over my head…

            I think plenty of Gen X were just on the the earlier edge of the wave that became what it is today.

        • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          2
          arrow-down
          23
          ·
          1 year ago

          Idk if that’s a passive or active you, but anyway that level of effect sounds quite large, maybe folk should find ways to make their credit rating better.

          But I restate I have no clues as to the inner workings of this “credit rate” and if it’s indeed impossible or otherwise unrealistic to effect, I’m willing to grab an implied L on that one.

          • AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            5
            ·
            1 year ago

            You positively affect your credit rating over long periods of time by taking out loans and paying them back. If no one will loan you anything, you can’t affect your score. If you can’t pay the loans back, it damages your score.

            • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              1
              arrow-down
              4
              ·
              1 year ago

              What happens if you don’t take loans at all before applying for a mortgage/house loan? You’re just at like a N/A rating?

                • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  2
                  arrow-down
                  3
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  That’s just kind of nonsensical, isn’t it better for someone to not have needed a loan before? To me that seems like the more mature creditor compared to someone who’s pulling credit constantly, regardless how well they pay it back.

                  That indeed does seem to suck, apologies for having to deal with a system as shit as that sounds.

                  • braxy29@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    this is what i thought and did not use credit cards for years. i was only able to buy a car with a co-signer. since then, i pay for everything with credit and pay it off all the time to build a credit history. i will need another car at some point.

              • braxy29@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                3
                ·
                1 year ago

                if you never take loans or use credit cards, your score won’t be very good. you have to prove that you can take on debt and repay it, not just that you can be responsible with your money (by, for example, never taking debt).

                • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  2
                  arrow-down
                  3
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  That sounds unfathomably stupid.

                  Yuh we need you to take these small credit loans constantly, to build your way up to bigger loans. Having to take small loans all the time is actually a sign of a healthy financial situation lmaoo

                  I mean if I’d have to choose between giving money to someone who’s never before had to take a loan vs someone who lives from credit to credit, I’d choose the first guy any day.

                  • AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    It’s not really stupid from their perspective. It’s about risk analysis. Unknown is riskier than someone who has been proven to pay off their debts.

                  • braxy29@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    i mean, yeah. i agree. but those are rules of the game for plebs in the US. (i’m sure things are different for the super-rich.) you wanna rent an apartment or buy a new car? you have to show good credit or have someone with good credit co-sign any agreement/loan. you might do it on your own if you can show enough income (for rent) or can purchase a car outright (pay the total amount).

                    you can do these things with bad credit, but you will pay a higher interest rate or settle for something sketchy.

                    i can’t speak to house-buying (looooool, add me to the list of americans in this thread who will never own a house), but i’m pretty sure it’s the same.

              • kmkz_ninja@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                3
                ·
                1 year ago

                You have to take loans and make financially risky maneuvers to prove you can pay back the bank (which incidentally is covered by FDIC, unlike the average person).