• Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    I thought that was grammatically correct especially since I used she like 3 or 4 words later specifically to refer to abigail and didn’t misgender her once or anyone ever.

    That said I can with a slowly clearing mind post meltdown see that it could be construed as catty. disingenuous or outright erasure especially since I was ranting about her content and that hers would of being a better choice to avoid any misunderstanding.

    In the end even having your he or she pronouns invalidated subtly by a lib using they can hurt when you know they are doing it out of spite and while I’d never do that, my choice of words can be construed as such maybe (if you squint and paint me as the opposite person to what my account behaviour would suggest) and I certainly won’t be making that mistake again.

    Besides I’m shit at English and grammar so maybe I should stick to simple words and grammar anyway 😅

    • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      You were correct. Etc makes it plural here, so you should use “their” rather than the singular “her”. If there was an issue, it was the following conjunct [items combined with an “and”] being in reference to “her,” seemingly dropping the etc. Shorter sentences do make things easier, but I can never tell someone to do that since every sentence I write is run-on.