Anyone have any advice on this? I hate the way CBT makes me feel but I can’t seem to find a therapist that doesn’t do it. The few I’ve tried that did “therapy tailored to your needs” just did CBT lite. Psychology today has been my main way of finding providers, are there other sites? Is there something I should be looking for specifically?
I’m just curious what you mean by how CBT makes you feel. It’s just a way to train you to think about things in a different way.
It always just feels like “have you tried not being bothered by that?” Maybe ive gotten bad therapists, but I’m just not vibing with it.
I agree with this. I had 2 CBT therapists before my current therapist and both times it felt really condescending/invalidating to me. Questions like “have you considered that your anxiety is not rational?” felt really off the mark and when I said “yeah of course I know it’s not rational,” they didn’t have anything to add beyond that. It wasn’t helpful to me at all.
Oh absolutely. Telling me this isn’t rational isn’t helpful, I know it’s not rational. Thats why I’m in therapy, isn’t it? It just seems to boil down to “don’t think bad thoughts” which like GOD I wish it was that easy.
I don’t have an answer but am interested and commenting to see what others have to say.
I would consider trying DBT if both CBT and EMDR didn’t work out for you. I know what you mean about how silly and invalidating it feels to have a therapist just telling you to think differently. DBT is a lot less thought-oriented, and more feeling/behavior-based. I just started listening to a podcast called “The Skillful Podcast” where they take you through the techniques, if you want to try it out. If that doesn’t work though, you’re welcome to share a bit more about what you’re looking for and I feel like folks here could try to help you find something that fits better.