So, I’m not publicly out, and I can pass either way (except voice of friggin course), and I am attending a wedding as a guest soon. The families are white, bougie, mid western and maybe conservative-ish. The other side is some shade of middle eastern, conservative, Muslim and Arab influences (I don’t know the families at all). I have no desire to draw attention so I’m going to go in boy-mode, but I also don’t want to feel like shit the whole time. Anyone ever find a good way to balance things without firing up the dysphoria into overdrive? I would love to be in a nice sun dress of course, but it ain’t happening. I have some mens suits and plenty of menswear formal-ish attire that I can work with. Anyway, anyone got any thoughts?

  • Barx [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    5 months ago

    There are nice outfits that can be femme depending on how preceptive someone is but that still tick the boxes for traditional male clothing in a pinch. Black slacks and a nice white blouse, for example. You can make the blouse on the femme side and avoid too much unwanted attention while still dressing literally femme. Light fabric, sleeveless or fun sleeves. If you bring a light jacket or blazer you can use it to go stealthy wherever you want, too. It also makes it easy to bring options so you don’t feel stuck if you change your mind one way or the other. Multiple shirts.