if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don’t get defensive. just say like “sorry, i won’t do it again” and don’t argue “actually it’s gender neutral” or “i call everyone dude”. even if you do, i guarantee she’s heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

  • Cromalin [she/her]OPMEnglish
    21•4 months ago

    if someone feels buddy is a gendered term and doesn’t want to be called buddy don’t call them buddy! this isn’t that hard, this is like the kind of shit they teach you in preschool, together with sharing your toys and stacking blocks into a big tower

    edit: reread your comment and realized it was probably a joke, but my point stands