• @GeneralVincent@lemmy.world
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    127 months ago

    whereas barbie girls are usually just for show.

    Women are not objects or “just for show”. They are people.

    In either case, both the barbie girl and the big tiddy goth gf are (generally) of no use in the household.

    Women are not household slaves to clean up after you. They are not objects. Their worth is not dependent on how they cook or clean. Maybe you can be learn to be useful in the household.

    One is for show, the other one is for sexual pleasure, but neither of them can be classified as good partners (in general… doesn’t mean it’s true for all).

    Again, not objects. Not sex objects, not trophies for your viewing pleasure, not cleaning robots. And saying “doesn’t mean it’s true for all” doesn’t make your sweeping generalization not demeaning or objectification. Anyone can be a good partner. If you keep having bad experiences with large groups of women, guess what… you’re the common denominator.

    They usually care more about their style (appearance) than anything else.

    Another generalization -_- the same people that say this kinda thing then unironically spend 12 hours playing video games or throw a tantrum when their sports team loses. It’s a hobby for some people. And for others, they’re told they’re not worth anything unless they spend all their time looking perfect (like you just did in the last paragraph)

    but… when it comes to actually marrying one, usually, none of them is them is the right choice.

    I will never understand how some people will say women are sex objects and then shame them when they have sex, all in the same breath. And if you’re kinky or like sex, you’re bad at marriage? That doesn’t even make any logical sense.

    You want a partner that will be by your side and cherish what you both have? Go to a market or a convenient store at 9AM on a Sunday. Those are the people that know what responsibilities are and will always be there for you.

    Yeah, best place to hit on women is when they’re grocery shopping lmao I don’t know why, but this reminds me of parents telling their kids to put on a suit, walk into any company, shake the owner’s hand, and you’ll get a job.

    Once again, this is a generalization… doesn’t mean everything is like I described it… this is more of a past experiences sort of a thing, mainly my experiences.

    Yeah, it’s not like you describe. You have to work through that resentment you feel towards these women before you have a healthy relationship. Seriously, as a man who could have very easily become an incel, I’m telling you that the most important thing you can do is to think of women as people. Retrain your brain, reinforce the thought ‘this woman is just like me, they are doing what they are doing for a reason. If I disagree with what they are doing, maybe I don’t understand it. I’ll try to understand it before criticizing it. And what this one woman is doing does not represent all women’

    I was lucky enough to meet a woman who is a lot like the women you’re criticizing. And she is an incredible wife and partner, and I have learned so much from her about what it means to be a woman. I hope one day you can find the same empathy and understanding.

    • @0x4E4F
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      -127 months ago

      You know nothing about me or my history/experience in life… yet, you’re free to comment on it, but I’m not allowed 😒…

      • @vzq@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        127 months ago

        yet, you’re free to comment on it, but I’m not allowed 😒…

        Just so we’re all clear, your little woman hating ass is NOT the victim here.

        • @0x4E4F
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          17 months ago

          I don’t hate women, where did I write that 😂.

            • @0x4E4F
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              17 months ago

              I never wrote anything like that! 😂 I just wrote my take on women stereotypes… the guy in the video was stereotyping them as well 😂.

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                I just wrote my take on women stereotypes

                You sure did. And there’s a word for people that write that crap.

                • @0x4E4F
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                  17 months ago

                  There is also a word for people that think their POV is the best.

      • @GeneralVincent@lemmy.world
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        57 months ago

        I do know something about your experience in life, you communicated that clearly, and continue to communicate that in all your replies.

        You’re free to comment your opinion, and I welcome you to comment on what you think my history/experience in life is like. But I will never stop defending women or really any other groups that are constantly harassed, demeaned, misrepresented, etc.

        I do so hoping that you’ll be open to learning something new, but if not then at the very least you’ll know this is not a safe space for sexism, others have the chance to gain a new perspective or add to the discussion, and people in those groups know they are welcome here and valued as people.

        • @0x4E4F
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          17 months ago

          You’re free to comment your opinion, and I welcome you to comment on what you think my history/experience in life is like.

          I won’t… because I don’t know you (personally).

          But I will never stop defending women or really any other groups that are constantly harassed, demeaned, misrepresented, etc.

          Yeah, right 😂. Men aren’t, so it’s OK to stand behind women and everyone else that needs protection from people 😂.

          What if I presented a completely different take on things regarding women.

          I do so hoping that you’ll be open to learning something new, but if not then at the very least you’ll know this is not a safe space for sexism, others have the chance to gain a new perspective or add to the discussion, and people in those groups know they are welcome here and valued as people.

          I have learned enough about women in my life… and this is my stand, I’m not budging from it. You will change yours as well, with time… I presume you’re young… I was as well, thinking just like you… and then life happened.

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            17 months ago

            I won’t… because I don’t know you (personally).

            You will change yours as well, with time… I presume you’re young…

            Lmaooo can’t even be consistent in the same comment. No I’m old enough and have enough morals to not become a jaded sexist.

            Yeah, right 😂. Men aren’t, so it’s OK to stand behind women and everyone else that needs protection from people 😂. What if I presented a completely different take on things regarding women.

            Yeah exactly, men aren’t and it’s ok to stand behind people who are. No idea what you’re trying to say with this part, it doesn’t really make sense.

            I have learned enough about women in my life… and this is my stand, I’m not budging from it.

            Yeah that’s fine, I’m just here to make sure you know you’re wrong. I can’t make you have empathy, or morals, or be a good person.

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              No I’m old enough and have enough morals to not become a jaded sexist.

              No you’re not… trust me, you’re not.

              Yeah exactly, men aren’t and it’s ok to stand behind people who are. No idea what you’re trying to say with this part, it doesn’t really make sense.

              As if men aren’t harrased by women (or other men, doesn’t matter), so it’s OK to stand behind women, but not men.

              You all get so protective of women, but have no idea what exactly it is that you’re protecting. Should I go on about gold diggers, the most common kind of fraud there is? And it’s over 99% women that do this. What about divorces and how women are the ones that almost always get custody of the children, even though the fathers might have been good fathers, but no, she gets to keep them. Why? Well, she’s their mother, of course, it’s perfectly natural 🤷.

              There are tons of other examples where women are almost always peferred to men… and none of us (men) seem to be bothered about it, but when they ask for something (rights in society, money from their partner, whatever), it’s automatically assumed that they should just have that and it’s done without questioning it.

              They have more rights than men now, in almost every aspect, and they still bitch about not having right (civilized world, not talking about saudi arabia).

              Yeah that’s fine, I’m just here to make sure you know you’re wrong. I can’t make you have empathy, or morals, or be a good person.

              I am a good person… in general. Morals flew out the window when I saw what everyone else was doing around me. I only have empathy for my kid, that’s it.

              I used to be different… used to be more like you I guess… and then reality slowly set in.

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                17 months ago

                trust me, you’re not

                I’m not trusting someone that doesn’t know me to tell me I’m not old lol

                The rest of your comment… good God. You really need therapy. If you don’t have a therapist, please get one. You need to talk to someone in real life, arguing with people on the Internet is not a substitute for healthy venting or communication. Your worldview is driven by resentment, and you can’t seem to see other people’s perspectives, and that’s not something to apathetically accept. You’re not too old to become a better person. What you’re saying is not reality. It might seem like your reality, but you have the power to change that and see the reality of others around you.

                This conversation has become less and less productive, and I’m no longer going to engage, but I hope your life gets better.

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                  If you wanna look at the world through pink glasses, that’s fine… just don’t treat me like I’m the one needing help.

                  I gave a valid reply… you decided to ignore it 🤷.