Starfarers by Vonda MacIntyre
The treatment of same sex partners in the story was just mater of fact, these are love affairs same as any other. She made it feel just like a natural thing, and progressive for the time it was written. I read it when I was still in high school in 1992.
It taught me to be acceptance of everyone, and eventually myself.
A deeper kiss than usual with a little more passion so it wakes up the idea in her. Light playful touching of sensitives areas when we’re laying in bed; her reaction quickly tells me if she’s interested or just wants to go to sleep. She usually says “lets to take a ‘nap’”