It’s not really surprising people are having problems with people on lemmy. For the first time in at least a decade we are in the Wild Wild West of a part of the internet. Things haven’t normalized themselves yet so shit is weird and sometimes unpleasant.
When I got off of Facebook I ended up telling people that if they wanted to get ahold of me they could reach me either by texting me or messaging me on signal. If someone wants to talk to me, they will. I haven’t heard from some people I used to talk to over messenger, and that sucks but it also shows that they weren’t super interested in staying in touch with me, and those aren’t the people I want to talk to.