men are not an unified front that plans things behind womens backs, similarly, some random woman you see on the street is not conspiring against you specifically

you should have a social codes for

• people your romantically interested in
• family
• everyone else

thats marginally less weird

monogamy and poligamy are both social contracts all participants must agree on, both are morally neutral

that dominance/submission thing i think its called power play, you can read about it if you want to, but its not a thing a majority of people will agree with you about it being necesary for relationships

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