I’d say for once don’t push yourselves. You don’t have to do every sex technique just because other people do it. If neither of you likes it, just let it go and focus on things you like. And if you want to do it, maybe take it slow. Let the person who is overwhelmed lead the pace. Agree on some signals and cues. Don’t be disappointed. Just stop and change to something different. It’s alright if it only lasts for a short moment. Maybe you can work your way up. But don’t push. Sex is about enjoying it, not do something specific.

And if you like to play games:

https://bettymartin.org/videos/

That’s about learning to give and receive. About setting boundaries and learning each other’s level of comfort. Maybe it helps. She has a free game(PDF) further down on that page.

Nice one.

They all have the same breasts. Need more variation 😆

https://lemmynsfw.com/post/4048137

I’d say try MythoMax-L2 first. I think it’s a pretty solid allrounder. Does NSFW but also other things. Nothing special and not the newest any more, but easy to get going without fiddling with the settings too much.

If you can’t run models with 13B parameters, I’d have to think which one of the 7B models is currently the thing. I think 7B is the size most people play around with and produce new finetunes, merges and what not. But I also can’t keep up with what the community does, every bit of information is kind of outdated after 2-4 weeks 😆

I assume (from your user handle) that you know about the allure of roleplaying and diving into fantasy scenarios. AI can do it to some degree. And -of course- people also do erotic roleplay. I think this always took place. People met online to do this kind of roleplay in text chats. And nowadays you can do it with AI. You just tell it to be your synthetic maid or office affair or waifu and it’ll pick up that role. People use it for companionship, it’ll listen to you, ask you questions, reassure you… Whatever you like. People also explore taboo scenarios… It’s certainly not for everyone. You need a good amount of imagination, everything is just text chat. And the AI isn’t super smart. The intelligence if these models isn’t quite on the same level as the big commercial services like ChatGPT. Those can’t be used as they all banned erotic roleplay and also refuse to write smutty stories.

I agree with j4k3. It’s one of the use-cases for AI I keep coming back for. I like fantasy and imagination in connection with erotics. And it’s something that doesn’t require AI to be factually correct. Or as intelligent as it’d need to be to write computer programs. People have raised concerns that it’s addicting and/or makes people yet more lonely to live with just an AI companion… To me it’s more like a game. You need to pay attention not to get stuck in your fantasy worlds and sit in front of your computer all day. But I’m fine with that. And I’m less reliant on AI with that, than people who use AI to sum up the news and believe the facts ChatGPT came up with…

I also don’t mind exaggerated. I’d like to be able to picture myself in that situation, but I have some imagination available. And I know realistic and grounded sex. That’s not what I read literature for.

It’s difficult. Sometimes it’s necessary to introduce that, since it generally also throws the reader off if they got time to form a picture in their head and you suddenly destroy that and have her large blubbery breasts weigh down on your chest on page 20. Or need to describe her eyes in detail later because they look at each other for a minute. Or in book 2 her sister comes visit her who also has ginger hair… I think that’s the reason why people do it. The less specific you are, the more you have to constantly factor in that all the characters could have vastly different appearances. And later descriptions of scenes have to get even less detailed.

Generally speaking I’m completely with you. Reading stories sparks imagination. And it’s fun to imagine the characters, picture the scenes. It’s not easy to write it that way.

And regarding the numbers to the body type: I think it’s also frowned upon to say someone has C-cup breasts because that’s too technical. You should describe them instead.

Hehe, glad it turned out quite alright for you. I guess there might be a happy ending to that story/letter. And now I get the context of your writing.

I also really like people who are direct an honest. If it were up to me, we could skip most of the clues and hinting at things. I mean if we’re trying to convey something to another human being we can make a deliberate choice to either make it simple and just say what’s on our mind, or make it a riddle for them to solve. I like the first approach and I think it would be to the benefit of everyone if people chose to do it that way.

Ultimately your situation is a bit different anyways… I wouldn’t dare to ask a random person for sex, it would be wrong. But if you’re already sending dick pics and talking about your cock… ¯_(ツ)_/¯ You can probably skip the social etiquette and speak your mind. They’re the right person to be honest with, or they would have ran away way earlier. (My opinion)

I like it. Sure, maybe it’s a bit more on the mechanical/technical side of describing the act. You could also describe the character’s emotions and how these things make them feel. But it’s not that obvious in such a short text. I think if you had given me that without a disclaimer, I wouldn’t have guessed it’s by someone who isn’t considered to be a normie…

Especially in the realm of erotica and pornographic stories, there are so many perspectives on things, fetishes and really outstanding things people like and focus on… The word “normal” kind of looses its meaning here.

There are guides on how to write erotica. It’s more focused to describe a scene than other kinds of fiction anyways. And I mean general tipps on storywriting apply if you want it to sound professional. Use past tense, choose a perspective from which the story is told, have a central theme and something that develops the narrative and characters and goes somewhere. But if you’re just doing it for you, you can skip all of these and just do whatever makes you happy. Except for consent of involved parties, there aren’t many rules to sexuality. There is some pressure by society, but in the end we all have to find out what we like and do that.

Alright. To contribute answering my own question: Some people seem to enjoy VRchat. That’s virtual reality however, not text-based. Maybe it’s the predominant way today, idk.

YouTube: The Unspoken World of ERP | A VRChat Documentary

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/erp-erotic-roleplay

Thank you. “Interesting” place indeed.

Thanks for the insights. If I might ask: where are those chatrooms? Discord? IRC? Some random website? Telegram? I don’t have the slightest idea.

I’m not really interested in dating apps or other chatrooms. I’d like to keep these things separate to manage expectations on both sides. I don’t want to hookup in real life. I also don’t want to annoy random people with internet porn. I think there should be specific places to meet for that so nobody gets upset and drawn into that without specifically signing up for it.

For adults only: