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  • foggy@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Men in their 40s, what’s one piece of advice for men in their 20s?
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    8 hours ago

    I’m not good by what I suggest lol.

    Trying to get them young because these habits die hard.

    It is easy to say you’re not an alcoholic. Have you read what defines alcoholism? I qualify. I wouldn’t assume I do.

    Here’s the cold slap in the face for us all. Count up your points…

    Alcohol is often taken in larger amounts or over a > longer period than was intended.

    There is a persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control alcohol use.

    A great deal of time is spent in activities necessary to obtain alcohol, use alcohol, or recover from its effects.

    Craving, or a strong desire or urge to use alcohol.

    Recurrent alcohol use resulting in a failure to fulfill major role obligations at work, school, or home.

    Continued alcohol use despite having persistent or recurrent social or interpersonal problems caused or exacerbated by the effects of alcohol.

    Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of alcohol use.

    Recurrent alcohol use in situations in which it is physically hazardous.

    Alcohol use is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by alcohol.

    Tolerance, as defined by either of the following:

    *A need for markedly increased amounts of alcohol to achieve intoxication or desired effect.

    *A markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of alcohol.

    Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following:

    *The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for alcohol (See the “How is alcohol withdrawal managed?” section for some DSM-5 symptoms of withdrawal).

    *Alcohol (or a closely related substance, such as a benzodiazepine) is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms.

  • foggy@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Men in their 40s, what’s one piece of advice for men in their 20s?
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    9 hours ago

    I’m 36.

    Do yourself a favor. Dont drink alone.

    Sound like a tall order? Work on that. Your liver is important. You’ll be alone a lot. You get in that habit now, it’ll be with you when you’re 40, and your liver will not be a fan.

    “Work on that” what do you mean?!? – you get home from a shit day at work, or you stop at a bar on the way home. You get drunk to numb the calcified agony of the working life. – that’s what I mean. There are other ways to numb thatee less maladaptive, they just take more effort and take affect less quickly. Move toward it for me tak health.

    Do you spend hours on the couch scrolling on your phone? Try to go on a 2 mile walk every day. 4 is even better. Your heart will thank you. Your hips, knees and ankles will thank you. Listen to a podcast. You can still binge content, just… Get your body moving. And get your eyes to focus on the horizon every now and then. It’s good for your eyesight long term.

    Get yourself out of breath, heart racing from pushing yourself physically at least once a week. Preferably nearly every day.

    Take up an artistic hobby. Write bad poems. Write bad stories. Write bad songs. Draw dumb cartoons. Draw bad portraits. Sing your best, but sing. Dance.

    Stretch.

    Brush your teeth twice a day.

    Floss.

    Do planks.

    Side planks too.

    Drink water.

    You should be able to do 20 pushups.

    You should be able to touch your toes.

    Sprint as far as you can at least once a month.

    Just don’t get complacent being complacent.

    Invest $1 for every $1 you put in a savings account. Put $1 into a retirement fund for every $1 you put in that savings acct too. Oh, and $1 in a Roth IRA at the same rate.

    Got an extra $100? $25 to savings $25 to investing, $25 to Roth, $25 to 401k.

    Do that til your savings ~= 6 months living expenses. Then stop that fund and split it 3 ways for investing, retirement, retirement.

    Use your investment (and if things go south, savings) for a down payment on a house to minimize your mortgage.

    Edit: in debt? Have more than 1 source of debt? Focus on the biggest one. If you can make minimum payments on all and have money leftover it goes to the largest debt/worst interest. Pay em off one at a time til your chins above water.