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  • coherent_domaintoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    1 month ago

    My main concern is the kid might feel entitled to what they are provided from their parents. That is not necessarily a problem in of itself, but I would be worried if my kids are not aware of how hard it would be to get a house or a car from nothing, because they never need to work for it. And I would be very upset if they cannot empathize with people who are not provided these things by their parents, hence doesn’t support public projects that benefit the less fortunate.


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    I growup with my mom preping me for “moving out at 18”, in the end, they did support me during college and give me some down payment for my apartment.

    I still feel quite bad asking my family for money till this day, because I was taught that way. If it isn’t my wife pushing to get an apartment, I probably will rent until I can pay for my own place. I am honestly quite grateful for them paying for my college because it is not a small expense; and I understand most people don’t have these luxuries.

    I feel their teaching let me save when I can, built up a lot of tolerance towards my environments and people around me, and develop a lot more empathy. I don’t know if there is a causal link, but I find people around me who talk a lot about “everyone should bootstrap themselves” often comes from richer families and they get much more than what I got from my parents. Quite honestly, I am very grateful I do not think like them, and I prefer my kid to not think like that as well.

    To be completely clear, I am not claiming I am unlucky or have bad parents. My parent, despite forcing me to be independent, are still a great safety net for me. I try my hardest to live on my own and I happens to not need anything else from them (besides enormous college tuitions and down payment 🤣), but I am sure they will provide me whatever I need if I truly needed it.