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I could see it where they have something else to do at the start, but the longer it goes on the less productive stuff there is to do not relying on the service?

Mindslaver?

https://pizzacakecomic.com/ The most recent comic she posted! (couldn’t click the individual post to share instead for some reason lol)

And nano of course.

I have curly hair that I’m growing out, but I just cowash with conditioner basically every day, and use shampoo somewhere in the range of every other day to every other week depending on when I feel like it’ll help (typically every like 4-5 days or so).

Yeah, but that journalist is also Klippenstein. That doesn’t prove it’s true, but he has a very good track record of publishing credible information.

I can also recommend the “how to figure out if you’re trans” stainedglasswoman article. It’s not perfect because no test will every be able to perfectly capture your gender identity, but when I was trying to figure out whether I was trans or not it was way more helpful than any of the gender quizzes I tried.

(Side note: I hate how many of the “am I trans” quizzes have questions like “Do you consider your gender identity to be different than your assigned gender” and similar. Like, if I knew the answer I wouldn’t have been doing quizzes like that in the first place lol)

Yeah I think my friends and I had joked that we should play go fish and super obviously be gambling and exchanging money, and when someone came over be like “I mean you guys did say go-fish is allowed.” Then if that was banned move to like betting on chess or something and get increasing ridiculous from there.

Also phones were fully allowed during our study halls so if people actually wanted to gamble they could very easily do so on them lol. I think game pigeon even has poker so you could basically do it undetectably via just a group chat.

Yeah I remember in highschool trying to play MTG with some friends during study hall and having one of the monitors come over and tell us no card games were allowed because of gambling, except go-fish apparently? Idk why go-fish would be less possible to gamble on, but…

It really does feel more powerful half-erased lol

Also, besides what some of the other comments said estradiol taken orally can increase blood clots/thromboses. It’s really up to preference though. I started with patches, but switched to injections because despite some of the annoyances, the upside of only needing do an injection once a week instead of changing patches 2-4 times a week was very welcome, and needing to have a bunch of patches (and the residue they’d leave) on my skin was getting a bit annoying. But at the end of the day whatever works best for someone is the best method to use!

I mean, I took the original comment in this thread to mean more like politicians who don’t support trans rights probably won’t support those things very much, which doesn’t seem too untrue. Since the meme is pretty exclusively about politicians and how trans rights are a pretty good litmus test for other issues, and so a politician who is explicitly transphobic is probably shitty about a bunch of other things, while one who’s middling on supporting trans rights is also probably middle of the road on supporting those other things too.

Yeah it sucks, because I loved Harry Potter growing up, but separating the art from the artist is a lot harder when said artist is still profiting off their art, and using that profit to directly fund transphobia.

In the same vein though, it’s a lot easier to say “vote for the lesser evil” when you aren’t being directly impacted by that issue. Even if being middle of the road on something like trans rights is better than outright hate, that still doesnt change that like 15+ states are trying to effectively ban trans people from existing in public by preventing us from using a bathroom without risking either arrest or assault, that in the majority of states trans minors can’t access the care they need, and that an increasing amount of the US is just not a place we could really even visit, let alone safely live in. Sure, if that’s true regardless then technically a vote that helps other people is better, but also trying to shame people for not voting in the face of that, rather than the politicians who are happily standing by while these issues get worse and worse to try and hold the votes of those communities hostage, is definitely blaming the wrong people.

And just like this post says, someone being middling on trans issues is also probably very middling on everything else, so really that argument also gets a lot weaker anyway. Plus, even if there existed a theoretical politician who was trying to bring back race segregation while also being a staunch supporter of trans rights for some reason, I still wouldn’t vote for them and I definitely wouldn’t blame anyone for not wanting to support them.

I say all this as someone who did vote for Harris in the last election, and who is active in mutual aid and activism groups in my area. Personally, I do consider voting to function as harm reduction in some cases, and I care about the issues impacting other marginalized communities plenty. (Also in general people who are a member of at least one marginalized group tend to be much more empathetic to other groups and their issues compared to people who aren’t). But I’ll never blame someone for not voting, whether its because they feel like voting legitimazes a rigged system, that the only options both totally suck and will result in their rights being stripped away regardless, that both options suck for a different marginalized group and they can’t justify support for that issue, they just feel unrepresented or like nothing will really change, or whatever. The blame for those people not voting is entirely in the hands of our government, political system, and the parties/candidates themselves.

If anything, I think the people who always vote for the lesser evil could be argued to be more at fault than the people who don’t show up. If someone knows they’ll have your vote regardless of their positions, as long as they arent quite as bad as the other party, why actually make things better? Making them worse is certainly more lucrative. That said, I definitely don’t think blaming individuals for the bad things a politician does is either fair or productive, and there’s a lot more everyone can and should do if they’re able to that isn’t voting, so spending time arguing about voting for the lesser evil or not isn’t worth it (I say, writing an essay-length comment about voting in response lol).

(Also sorry for the massive wall of text, I just kinda kept writing once I started haha)

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I mean based on Mary Magdalene, I’d assume feet.

I also went on those “baby name by year” sites for my birth year, but I purposefully went to the 100-200ish range since I wanted a name that wouldn’t stick out too much, but also wouldn’t be so common I’d know or meet a bunch of other people that shared it.

I also had a few other things that would be nice but not necessary that I wanted the name to have, so when reading down the list I had a smaller number of names to consider. One just jumped out at me though, so I tried it out for a bit and ended up sticking with it.

I feel like not having a president would actually be better than newsom tbh

In your comments you actually used singular they several times probably without realizing it, because singular they has existed in English since the 1300s. Singular you wasn’t even really a thing until the 1600s, so that’s actually the less established pronoun in English.

The other thing is no-one “assigns themselves” or “makes up” their gender. Sure the labels given to things are made up, but so is every other word. Non-binary identities also are as old as binary ones. Some indigenous north American tribes have “two-spirit”. Rome had the Galli, as sort of trans-adjacent priests of Cybele. The jewish talmund lists 7 distinct genders. Babylon had multiple non-binary identies, often as priests of Inanna. Etc.

Irregardless though, the existence of multiple labels to describe similar but not identical concepts isn’t really “redundant”, in the same way that you wouldn’t claim the word “angry” shouldn’t exist because “mad” already does. To you it might not matter what someone identifies as, but its also not your job to decide whether or not that identity “makes sense”, because, by definition, if someone uses a certain label then that label has a reason to exist. No one’s asking you to memorize every single microlabel. That’s why non-binary is so widely used, its easier to have an umbrella term that’s more widely understood.

Gender isn’t something rigid, just like any other aspect of your own identity, and it would exist whether or not you had words to describe it. So arguing that having those words to describe it is more confusing doesn’t really make sense. In fact, before “they” became as accepted as it is now as a genderless 3rd pronoun, people did try to make a distinct third option to prevent confusion. Stuff like “e/em” for example. But none of them really picked up any widespread traction, because it turns out that most people already used they as singluar sometimes and it was a lot easier to just expand that usage naturally than it was to get every English speaker on-board with new pronouns.

And no one is really going to get mad at people for slipping up, or using they to refer to a group, or anything like that. Trust me, most binary trans people get misgendered often enough as is, and its much worse if you’re non-binary. Being corrected about someone’s pronouns isn’t people “getting mad over people not understanding”, 99% of the time its literally just a correction, same as if you forgot someone’s name or mispronounced it. Just like that, unless you’re intentionally doing it to be an asshole, the vast majority of trans and non-binary people aren’t going to make a big deal about it. Especially because we know that there’s the perception that trans/nb people “overreact to mistakes” so a lot of the time there’s a pressure to try and avoid doing anything that might accidentally reinforce that perception. Which really means if anything it’s a lot more common for a trans person to just not say anything when they’re misgendered than it is to say something.

Edit to say: Also honestly, you probably won’t be able to understand what it actually is when someone is nonbinary. Everyone, regardless of if they’re cis or not has a unique relationship to their own gender. Two cis men will have very different explanations of what being a man means to them. The same is true for any gender identity. Without actually having experienced dysphoria, or gender euphoria, any of the numerous experiences attached to being trans or nonbinary, it can be hard to “get it”. That doesn’t make it less real though, its just not something you’d personally feel, which is fine. No one expects you to be able to. A man also wouldn’t necessarily “get” what being a woman is and vice versa, but that doesn’t make “man” and “woman” invalid identities. I’m a trans woman and I honestly don’t really “get” what being a man is like, because my closest reference is the dysphoria that came from perceiving myself that way, which isn’t what “being a man” is, it was just part of my specific expierience of being trans. That doesn’t stop me from understanding that men exist, or make me consider “man” as a less valid identity, because whether or not I can relate to specific aspects of anyone’s identity as a man is irrelevant to whether or not they feel that it is an accurate or useful label to describe themselves. The same things are true for nonbinary identities from a cis perspective.

It would basically make the same amount of sense for me to say “I don’t understand what being a man is, so there isn’t a reason for it to exist, it’s just confusing. And idk why men get mad at me for using ‘she’ to refer to them. All of my friends are girls so its too hard to use something else besides she/her when I interact with someone in that group. I have nothing against men, but they shouldn’t bring that identity outside of their own circles because its too annoying to understand.” as it does for a binary person to say that nonbinary identities are confusing or shouldn’t exist because they don’t personally feel the need for it.