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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • First of all, yes, to the childhood, sooo much yes.

    I finally got diagnosed at 36 when I, after homeschooling my kid through ONE MONTH of Covid went, “Holy shit this kid has ADHD.” Cuz she was trying to pay attention, and I could see that she was, her brain would just drift off somewhere else… Anyway. One month, lightbulb, diagnosis, medication. Meanwhile I was literally homeschooled my entire childhood and my parents missed it.

    Her diagnosis lead to mine, and at 36 there I am telling my mom that I’ve been diagnosed, annnnd she basically reacted like I had decided to dye my hair a different color. Like it was just a fun new fact to know about me.

    I don’t know why I was expecting more, I don’t know why I was expecting her to react the way I would have if I’d found out I failed my kid that hard… Man that stung.








  • I repeat their name back to them (helps a little, makes sure I heard right), tell them straight up l probably forget their name a couple times, and once they walk away I repeat their name a few times while trying to picture their face/anything interesting about them.

    It semi works, but I’ve also let them know in advance that if I forget, it’s normal for me and not that I don’t care.

    I also try to say their name often in conversation with/about them to help solidify it in my brain… But then they quit the job (most people I meet are at work, and turnover is high) and I start alllll over again with someone new. Sigh