TheMuffinMan

I’m Middle Eastern, but 2 years away from 30 unfortunately!

I don’t think it’s that bad personally.

I have fairly intense anxiety and recently started seeing a therapist (for it and other issues), but I honestly think the OP gives good advice.

I am not saying it’s a cure, nor am I trying to trivialise the impact anxiety can have on a person, but it’s one I would keep in my ‘toolbox’ so to speak, and remind myself of every so often.

Many of my earlier fears in life really did not warrant as much stress as they took on my body, and I kind of still let that happen.

Came here to say it. The worst material!

Agreed. There is basically no fruit, vegetable, or ‘typical’ meat that I am 100% opposed to eating because I wouldn’t enjoy it.

That said, I don’t care for pork, and I usually hate okra, but I have had a couple of okra dishes that were pretty good. I thought I hated papayas in all forms until I had a Vietnamese papaya salad (Gỏi Đu Đủ), which was unreal.

Aubergine/eggplant is a great example. It’s naturally quite slimy. Needs something more substantial to be paired with it to offset the texture a bit.

This and another reply helped me understand what I was missing, thank you!

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ngl, I think I’m missing why all the other commenters are crapping on this guy. It’s not that offensive an idea to me?

A good, hard hitting question.

OC, life can be happier and more fulfilling. Find your tribe!

Wow. Upvoting because, on the whole, I disagree.

I love a fresh, cold salad. But maybe the only other things I like cold are… the milk in a bowl of cereal? Cheese and salami or prosciutto on a charcuterie board? That’s about it.

But then again, the vast majority of my meals are in the rice + veg + protein + sauce form. Those would be really sad without the heat.

Appreciate that you mean well, but it’s 2 words! ‘trans’ is an adjective describing men

Back on-topic, I highly doubt they give a damn about trans men. Not that I think they (or anyone) should serve in the military, but I digress.

Wow, I’ve never hated something more. I don’t know why I get such an intense ick from this, holy hell. Sorry lol.

Blackout curtains + closed windows do not keep my first floor anywhere near cool enough unfortunately; I think it’s really poorly insulated as it is also really cold up there in the winter (though this is much more manageable to me.)

My problem with sleeping with a fan is they trigger my myofascial pain syndrome quite badly. My only relief is still air that’s cooler. I also run quite hot in general :/

I have noticed, however, that I can do a single top up at around 13:00, where I run the AC for a bit to get the upstairs room slightly cooler than downstairs. Then I turn it off and close the window and it stays somewhat bearable for the rest of the day, opening the window again at night.

I completely understand your concerns about power usage as I am eco-conscious myself, and I really wish I had a ceiling fan to use instead. Getting my landlady to sign off on that is a bit unlikely.

Those are very sensible suggestions tbf; it’s just that my house is really small! I live alone, renting. My room upstairs doesn’t fit any more than my bed and the AC (floor unit). The only way I can work up there is with a laptop on my bed, which is an ergonomic nightmare that will have me cramping in about 10 minutes.

I have a small sofa that is comfortable enough to sleep on downstairs, that I would probably use if I did not have the AC

I can lug the AC up and down the stairs but one of those 2 areas will be so warm that by the time I’ve moved it I’m immediately in need of another shower… and then again when I move it back.

I need my AC unit upstairs to sleep, but I need it downstairs so that I’m not peeling myself off of my chair every 5 minutes while working. The struggle is real.

Genuinely considering buying a second, despite barely having the space.

Tried to balance out some of the downvotes! Obligatory fuck the IDF, but I otherwise agree.

Hey, I just wanted to say that I appreciate you and I’m glad you’re still with us.

FWIW, your family would be traumatised if you did anything like that; quick skim reading tells me you have a daughter. This isn’t meant to guilt trip you regarding your feelings; I just wanted to offer a counter to the “my family would be better too.”

I hope that you end up feeling in control of your own life, and maybe even proud of it. You deserve to walk her down the aisle with happy tears in your eyes (if marriage ends up being on the cards for her!)

I have this friend that I invite over sometimes, but he has this habit of extending that invite to mutual friends without telling me, and so I’ll suddenly have 2 or 3 people rocking up to my place unexpectedly.

It drives me absolutely bananas. It was supposed to be a low-key hang out and now I have to come up with group activities on the spot.

Easily the assholes on motorbikes who go out of their way to be as noisy as possible and cause a whole row of houses to vibrate tangibly.

At my last place I used to wake up 2-3 times a night from this.

I’m sorry that happened to your girlfriend, but anyone is capable of rape. You seem to be fixating on the trans part because it affirms your biases.

One of the airports in Warsaw has fidget spinners bolted to the wall 😭 even that’s outdone this.