There’s an important difference between recognizing that things are better / easier now, and ridiculing people who transitioned in a less supportive environment, particularly for their appearance. The latter would seem like a pretty bad attitude to me; perhaps your comments come across with a nuance that you didn’t intend?
Hopefully future generations will be more understanding and look at us with sympathy and compassion rather than mockery.
Ouch! That reminds me of one of the episodes which led to my egg cracking…
Scene: me, out drinking with some friends who just happen to all be women (no hint there, obviously). Fairly well-oiled at this point.
Me: Since everyone else is a girl, maybe I should just become one too, ha ha!
Fren (surprised): Where did that come from? Are you transgender? That’s cool if you are, I’m bi by the way.
Me: Ha ha no, only joking, just felt like the odd one out that’s all, let’s change the subject right now…
Me (to self): fuck fuck fuck where did that come from, I mean I do want to be a girl, but cis people don’t say that kind of thing, dumbass
Get home; wake up with hangover and gender crisis.
Definitely not trans
OK, possibly a bit trans
You caught me :3
Just about collected enough of a wardrobe that doesn’t look awful on me (ie the right size and not hyper-feminine) so that I can dress in women’s clothes all the time. Plus a growing pile of “don’t wear outside the house” and “possibly when I’m a different shape” reserves :) Wearing my old men’s stuff feels uncomfortable, so I threw most of it out except for a few items in case I need to emergency-stealth.
Makeup turns out to be not as obvious to other people than I thought! Went out the other day with eyebrow pencil, mascara and some light eye shadow, and even my wife (who in theory knows what I look like) couldn’t tell what I had used.
Otherwise it’s hurry up and wait. Consultation for laser this week, and maybe I can get on the list at the gender clinic for counseling in October (a GID diagnosis is required where I live).
You just blew my mind. I mean, I realize it must take a lot of knowledge and practice to get a good result, but…
Wow, if I could get whatever design in exactly my size…
Hehe, I’ve been going around the past week or so (still mostly stealthing) with shaved arms, legs, and painted nails, and despite a couple of double-takes, nobody even commented. (Actually a bit disappointed…)
just trying to do what you think is attractive
Oh yeah, that’s been a total brain-melt for me too. I think I’m starting to see a difference between “be her” and “be with her” attraction, but so far I’ve just been trying things out at random :)
I forget where it was, but I saw some photos recently of plus-size models (proportionally larger than me, I think) who were wearing skirts really well. Apparently there’s some idea of “dressing for body shape” which I guess I need to figure out…
Fashion be damned, I’m gonna wear a skater skirt and stripy socks at least once.
Woo, that’s encouraging :) I really like the photo in the CG doc; hopefully I can get something similar.
The hairdresser tidied it up for me (I think they got the idea that I really do want to grow it all out), but it’s looking pretty masculine still. I guess I’ll wait a few months and bring a picture next time!
Thank you (^-^)
Cool, Shea Moisture seems to be available where I am - I’ll check it out!
Thank you! I guess I can’t avoid the hairdresser for ever - I’ve been dreading the “yes, I actually do want it to look girly” conversation.
Looks like the CG method and moving off my current “don’t care” brand shampoo is a good place to start. Here’s to some experimentation :3
Woah, that’s a lot of info! Thank you!
Disaster incoming…
No (that’s the joke), but part of me thinks that would make more sense than distinguishing people based on whether their AGAB matches what they currently identify as.
Better than I could put it, thanks!
The joke is using twisted logic to avoid identifying as trans. As I understand it, cis/trans usually refers to same/different identified gender vs that assigned at birth. Instead, we’re saying “well I’m a girl now, which matches what I wanted, no need to call myself trans”
Does that help? I’m very new to this myself…
Hope you get it figured out! Good luck ~
Hiya, and congratulations! Newbie here.
Now that I’m no longer using junk food and booze to fill the gaping void in my life, I’m slowly but steadily losing weight (for the first time ever) - went down a belt notch today :) I wonder if my man boobs will stay to give me a head start?
Plus, first laser session in a few hours. Bye bye, beard!