She’s a surfer girl in blue, and she’s got some nice big curves to her front

Well that’s because the main character is a trans girl, and who’s ever heard of a trans girl who wasn’t autistic?

the health-at-any-size people took that and made it to mean fat means healthy

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This movie is very memory safe

Unfortunately the health-at-any-size people took that and made it to mean fat means healthy, and that couldn’t be fatter from the truth.

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Well I think the plus size mannequins look nicer.

The Matrix (1999)

Yes… Ha ha ha… Yes!

Creationist here. I think the world was created by people, who told each other stories until their stories formed a world, and then the people lived in the world. They invented the idea of humanity by which to know themselves, and that’s where human beings come from.

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Yeah, PugJesus is right

You shouldn’t doxx people, it’s not nice.

Other people having a special interest in science doesn’t make you dumb. Science is actually very cool, fun to learn about, and important for understanding the world and other people. You don’t have to treat it like a scary thing.

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Driving a car is a sin, and the gods will punish all of us for your hubris. They’ll send droughts, famines, floods, fires, and hurricanes to smite us all because you drove a car.

Well it’s mostly about the empathy guideline.

Another user in this thread was pointing more empathy my way than I was comfortable with. She didn’t know much about me, so she was mistaking my intentions, and that made me feel uncomfortable. I wish she hadn’t tried to use so much cognitive empathy on me, she didn’t have enough context to use it right. The guidelines say you should have a lot of empathy for other people, but I disagree. Sometimes we just shouldn’t guess at other people’s motivations, because we’re going to misunderstand them. We should control our empathy.

Like when you banned Dragon Rider. I read what both of you had to say about the leaked messages, and drag was saying drag’s intention wasn’t what you thought it was and apologizing. It seemed like you jumped to conclusions because you used too much empathy. Yeah, we’re a social species who evolved a limited ability to read minds, but we shouldn’t use it all the time. Especially not for important stuff. Sometimes we should just ask other people what they’re thinking instead.

When I first started using Lemmy, I wouldn’t have thought about empathy that way, but I had to adjust my mental model of empathy to be more like how Blahaj uses it, after seeing that whole situation, so I could understand what happened. And if empathy means guessing at other people’s motivations without asking them, I think empathy should require a bit more caution and consent. Reading minds isn’t always nice.

As for PugJesus, that guy uses far too little empathy. He never bothers to think about why other people are doing what they do. But I think there’s got to be a happy medium in between treating others like black boxes, and assuming you know everything about them. I don’t think more empathy is always good.

I think the idea you’re working off of, that people are capable of accepting ambiguity, is flawed. Some people, sure. But a lot of people will never accept ambiguous guidelines, because the human brain isn’t designed to see things that way. The autistic human brain often especially not. These people will always want certainty, and they’ll psychoanalyse you to get it.

I’ve tried to psychoanalyse you too, because I’m the kind of autistic that craves structure. Haven’t started arguments over it, but I have seen some weird decisions I didn’t understand and struggled to get my head around them. Because if your mind is unpredictable to me, then the way Blahaj is moderated is unpredictable too. And people like me want to feel like we understand the rules, even if it’s an illusion of safety. An illusion of safety can be very important to a person’s wellbeing.

An environment where the rules are unclear and I don’t feel like I understand them, well that reminds me of elementary school, personally. Personally, due to my own trauma, I don’t feel like I’m capable of accepting that kind of environment without falling into despair. When I was a kid who didn’t understand the rules, I acted out. I didn’t see the point in trying to follow rules I didn’t understand, so I didn’t bother trying not to misbehave. I’ve matured quite a bit since then, but to be completely honest, using Blahaj makes me feel like that confused little kid again, on an emotional level.

A lot of people say growing up is hard, but for me, every year I got older made things easier. The rules became clearer. When I entered university and the workplace I got shown codes of conduct and ethics guidelines. Loved it. Way better than the chaos of childhood. It feels safe. You’re saying clear rules aren’t actually safe, and I agree, but I still like being able to lie to myself and say I’m safe. I breathe easier. I relax.

Oh great, we’ve got an internet truther here.

Mate, the internet exists. It’s part of reality. It’s not a fantasy otherworld.

Nobody owes you politeness when you walk around spreading diseases. You’ve chosen to make your existence into a threat to others.

Yeah, I got that, but the only coding I’m aware of on Blahaj is the cutesy voice thing. Which I didn’t think was enforced until right now. I figured you thought I must be a cis man because I don’t talk cute, and you were pointing out I didn’t sound trans which makes me sound like the outsider you think I am. Did I misunderstand your reading?