Nah, part of the playbook sets up the initial Lets Encrypt certificate… so DNS needs to point to the new VPS. And the hostname needs to match the existing instance as it is referenced in the database.
Doesn’t matter now anyway, I went a different route :)
Each instance admin will do their own thing. Check the sidebar on the front page of your instance, usually it would be mentioned there.
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