Sure they may have committed a crime, but they won’t be a criminal until you start treating them like one.

How about just talking to them? I noticed that “having a real conversation with them” wasn’t one of your options.

6. Take the pen away and let them know that you’re not going to tell anybody else about it. “We don’t need to make this a big deal, but honestly, it COULD be a big deal. Lots of drugs have benefits, but they also have their downsides. Let’s talk about drugs in a real adult way…”

By being “on their side” they will respect you, and will actually listen to the things you have to say.

If you immediately tell their parents then they won’t trust you to tell you anything. They’ll trust their dumbass vaping friends, and will keep doing whatever their friends are doing.

My cool uncle and I went for a drive when I was 16. He told me all about his drug experiences, including “don’t do too much Molly. It will rot your brain.” He was completely honest and my respect level for him went up 1000x

I’ve said No to drugs SO MANY TIMES in my life, and always think about his advice, every single time. Even now, 20 years later.

Your kid is going to break the law, FYI.

Every family is different. Get out of here. You’d also have a way bigger influence on them if you remain the cool trustworthy aunt/uncle. You can teach them lessons they will actually listen to if they trust you. Not so much if you’re a nark.