Definitely. I am very close with my extended family, which is almost worse lol because I have to do something about it and I don’t really want to go the nuclear option and just ghost them :/ at some point I’ll just have to face it. I feel like I need to be further along though. I guess I really just really really do not want to be perceived as a “man in a dress”

Going back to a family gathering in august. Going between cancelling, boymoding, or saying fuck it and wearing what I want. Only thing is that it’s gonna be extremely uncomfortable no matter what.

Oh I feel that. Half the time when I go to the doctors the nurse in taking me basically shouts that I’m on estrodiol and Spiro. Sometimes I also get someone (if I’m boympdkng) shout "Ms (my last name) and then looks extremely confused when I walk up.it always sucks. But also it’s just… Idk it sucks for a second and then it’s not a big deal. Not fun tho

You just have to boy mode to get into the door. They can’t kick you out because you’re trans

Most of these I have no idea what you’re talking about. For the politics ones besides the first 2 could you post info/news links?m

Oooh I can’t wait for mine to be a bit softer. I’ve got pretty big biceps and triceps, which I’m personally not against. They could look more fem though

Yeah I’ve been on estrogen for like 7 months and on month 4 I started getting very anxious. Finally it has actually subsided by adding spiro

One instance you will probably be fine. I am really concerned I caught covid though 😅

Spiro has changed my life. My OCD thought patterns have nearly vanished. I can ignore my intrusive thoughts again. I had no idea this would happen, I fully expected Spiro to increase my anxiety. I feel like I have my life back 😭 trying not to get too excited since it’s been less than a week but this is the most relief I’ve had so far.

Was T really fucking with my brain that much? I actually don’t believe it. Maybe it’s the blood pressure lowering effects?

Honestly still feel this sometimes except I know I’m hot

Owie

I need to just start reading everything I read out loud in my voice. Hardest part is I am just not satisfied with any voice I can do

Yeah I don’t get the “am I doing this for attention” type thoughts anymore. It’s more like, Im just scared that I’m all wrong about myself because like no one sees it, no one expected it… And like whenever I say my chosen name people just give me this look like yeah whatever you say. Some people will even double take and be like seriously? And then bro me.

Internally I feel like me, and I feel like I’m pretty feminine but when no one sees that from the outside Its like really hard to take myself seriously or take seriously my thoughts and feelings. I really just want to be taken seriously by wider society and I’m just not… I am forced to boy mode at work as a result because I don’t think people would take me seriously if I came out and that’s also slowly driving me to crazy

I need to just get a strong internal sense of gender. It’s kinda hard when no one sees me :/

The reason why IPL won’t work on the face is that it just doesn’t have enough power to kill the follicles. For AMAB people hair follicles in the face are deeply rooted and strong in a way that is not the case in other parts of the body

Laser and IPL both cause permanent hair loss but just note you have a lot of hair in different cycles so this takes a while.ipl is much lower power so you’re also not going to kill as many but you will definitely thin the hair out significantly. Like my leg hair takes a while to grow back and I only shave like every once in a while now. For body IPL should suffice though… imo.

Laser yeah I think it’s pretty permanent but it’s not going to get everything. You’ll have to finish up with electrolysis. Unfortunately this whole thing is a multi year process though you’ll start seeing results somewhat quickly.

Re:covid I think you’ll easily be able to request they wear a mask. They should also be sanitizing the decises like between customers. What other actions do you want them to do to be covid safe?

It’s pride month which means straights come to the gay bars 🙃

Lots of straight people at the lesbian bar… just got asked by some dude if I was in line for the men’s room. Very cool

Yeah my experience was pretty tough I would say, when I was going through it. But I’m out on the other side now and it’s honestly fine and I completely forgive her (and I myself have apologized for any wrongs I did through that time) and I think we’re in a good place.

Honestly yeah it really fucked with my head that absolutely no one saw it at all. Nobody even saw any queerness in me. Still this happens when I come out to people and it’s like my number one reason why I absolutely hate coming out. I just want people to be like “oh yeah I saw that it makes sense” but that literally never happens and it kinda makes me crazy

Oh God this is kinda shit advice but I just try to ignore them. Also the more time I spend with my friends who are affirming and in affirming spaces that feeling gets less loud over time.

I will say though I’ve been mostly out socially for like 9 months now. The feeling definitely gets quieter the longer you’re our and also the better your style gets.

I mean, transition is indeed a process, but also I don’t think you should focus on how hard it would be to detransition if you’re wrong or something. Focus on figuring out what you actually like, try different things, try hormones if you want (you can stop before 3 months with basically no permanent changes).

For me, I did a partial social transition before I got on E for my own reasons. But also, it’s really hard. That being said it does build up your skin for it though lol.

I guess, I’d say if you’re unsure, just do some exploration. Nails, plushies, grooming, clothes, wigs (if you want), breast forms, all sorts of things. If you’re in a city there is probably some support group around? Check your local lgbt center if you have one.

Hormones can come later if you want. But that absolute, 100% knowledge that I’m trans didn’t come for me and I think never would come for me without just trying hormones. Even still idk it’s weird. I’m pretty damn sure but also dysphoria is a bitch and always has me second guessing.