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  • Barbarian@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlwho is this?
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    1 year ago

    > but I often wish for more connection with other people

    The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.

    I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.

    EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.






  • Barbarian@lemmy.mltoLemmy@lemmy.mlIntended way to federate
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    1 year ago

    You should be able to federate with all available communities by default.

    The trick is that your instance will not pull in all communities by default. Once 1 person subscribes to a community (a bit tricky for the first time, see here), all users on your instance will start seeing that community in their “All” feeds.











    1. Technically yes, but it’s not even vaguely in the same ballpark. If I’ve understood the devs talking about the optimization issues (I could be wrong! Just my limited understanding) the big performance hit is in the local feed. That means being on another instance takes a gigantic amount of the load off, even if you’re still accessing the same community.

    2. If lemmy.ml is down, so are all the communities hosted there. All communities not on lemmy.ml would still be up.