I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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    it’s the only social media I have that still has my real name attached. I use it to keep in contact with old coworkers, keep and host my resume, and I like their daily games. It also makes it easier to spitefully apply to other jobs at 2am but then those jobs actually call me and I realize I don’t want to have to learn 30 new people’s names and a new set of nightly charting requirements all over again. Doesn’t mean I don’t threaten my boss occasionally anyway.


  • Fun fact from a psych nurse: you can usually estimate how many years a person has spent abusing substances by how many years behind they seem in their emotional development. A 30y/o who still acts 20ish has probably spent ~10 years using. It’s not necessarily contiguous, they might have started at fifteen, used for 3, got sober for two, used for 7 more then been sober for the last 3, but they’ve probably spent about ten years using in total. Abusing substances lets people avoid the psychological crises they would normally need to confront to grow as a person. When they stop using they don’t get to skip ahead, they have to pick up maturing from where they left off. It can also happen with non-substance behavioral addictions (like gambling) but it has to be real bad.



  • Honestly both chihuahuas and pugs should also be banned. It’s not their faults we bred them to be sick but we should very much like, stop. At least get all the ones that currently exist fixed start fining people for having unfixed ones. The phenotypes that cause difficulty breathing are measurable (literally in head length / width ratios) and if anti-pitbull peeps can decide on a similarly objective metric there’s no reason they can’t be added in. The most common ones I hear are mouth shape / bite strength and prey drive / bite tenacity (resistance to letting go), and I must admit that I question the logic of making a terrier that big (there’s a reason large domestic cat breeds prioritize docility / “doglike” behavior, and a terrier is literally a dog bred to do a cat’s job). If they can decide on an objective way to measure those things people can be fined for having one that’s not fixed and there’s plenty of nosy people out there to get it done. They weren’t inbreeding themselves by choice to begin with either so it’s not like we’re fundamentally removing some choice they had by stopping people from continuing to.












  • Broke: the Apocalypse is coming

    Woke: the Apocalypse has come and gone and come and gone numerous times and in each occurrence replaced our comfortingly benign world with something new and terrifyingly incomprehensible. The crystal temples of revelation have been both built and felled and will be built again, and the many marks of the beast have worked their way into our lives bit by bit as ID numbers and credit cards and smartphones and so neatly that few people will object when he comes time to implant them. The only certainty is that each successive apocalypse and the world that comes after will be be unthinkably more bizarre than the last.


  • My addiction ed for new techs that were hired with few to no actual psych qualifications is that they’re almost definitely addicted to something and just happen to be lucky enough that it’s legal. Common legal addictions:

    • nicotine
    • caffeine
    • gambling including microtransaction phone games
    • social media
    • pornography
    • processed sugar

  • He makes the case that DMT unlocks a realm ordinarily cut off to our senses and populated by unfathomably advanced nonhuman entities.

    It’s his firm belief, however, that what feels like a face-to-face encounter with an intelligent entity is an illusion, basically a higher-order version of seeing faces in clouds.

    Tbh I think the truth is gonna turn out to be WAY weirder than either of those things. Last time I took like 500mg of concentrated THC oil out of a shot glass I just remember a voice saying something along the lines of “oh good you brought a cat. Things are about to be both much more true and much less true than you’re used to, but cats are usually good at figuring those things out.” And then I fell into some sort of weird mental hole that apparently lasted 12 hours. I then woke up and group texted my family all the shit they say behind each others backs, changed my number, and decided to stop drinking a twelve pack every night off. That was like 2 years ago and I haven’t drank or spoken to my family since. No idea what I saw while I was in there but I can almost guarantee it was waaay weirder than a hallucination OR most human conceptions of God.


  • Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.

    Cheap places to take a girl:

    • fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.

    • if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.

    Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.


  • first of all, right?

    Christianity was at it’s height when it was a syncretistic antiestablishment death cult. If I ever get a time machine Athasnasius of Alexandria is above Hitler on my hitlist. It’s not even because I have beef with the number three shit even the taoists like the number 3. but using the number 3 as a way to intentionally create divisions so that they can become opposing sides in over a millennia of wars is unconsciensable.