I now understand why Lemmy is called “link aggregator” software

Gotcha. I like that approach. Thanks!

I’ve never used object storage before, so I’m not even sure that’s the best approach for the use case. It makes sense when you need to access storage provided by a 3rd party in a standardized way, but perhaps it’s overkill when everything is self hosted. I wonder if folks have other ways to connect the application to remote storage that’s less “heavy.” That said, I will certainly dig into Minio, as it seems to be the best of breed. Thanks!

I guess there are a few -> https://geekflare.com/self-hosted-s3/

Congrats!

I use HWK gear and find it to be pretty good. Something is better than nothing, and while you get what you pay for, you also get diminishing returns as you move up the cost scale. Plenty of people ride squid (no gear) all the time. Some of them crash, get road rash, heal, and continue to ride squid. It’s all about your personal tolerance for risk, your personal financial situation, etc. Just know that every day clothes like denim jeans offer pretty much no protection at all.

Welcome to the life

Thanks for your perspective. You are right that I was indeed acting like a hurt spouse. For a little clarity, one of our children was at work at the time I confronted her. We had to wait about 90 min for him to come home. So, she had that time to think about what she was going to say, it wasn’t so immediate as I made it seem.

For added clarity, I don’t have mixed feelings, I feel very confident that I did the right thing here. But I recognize that we don’t always see everything from our own perspective, so I sought to broaden my view. You helped provide a perspective I couldn’t see, so thank you. I was also hoping to provide a good topic for a rich post on Lemmy that would spur some participation and discussion. I’m glad so many are providing their opinions.

Oh yes, she’s entitled alright. Lawyers got involved. The laws here are very clear. She walks away with half of everything, plus 20% of my income for the next 14 years. The thanks I get for working hard to support her for 25 years so she could have an easier life. She won’t need money, and I won’t have any left to take

I agree that r/dataisbeautiful turned out to be very political. What I saw was that the community was rather united in its political stance and if someone made a post that was out of line with the community’s ideology they got roasted. The reaction was rarely about how the information could have been portrayed more intuitively, or how the data could have been stronger. Those reactions were for posts that were in line. Others were downright attacked. It certainly wasn’t about making data beautiful

Thank you so much. A lot of great points here. Thanks for taking the time

In retrospect, I am glad she didn’t have a chance to spin her own story. She totally would have

Thanks for the well worded response. I tried to walk a line for the last two years between helping they stay connected with her, and not wanting to have anything to do with her. I wouldn’t force them, but I would do things all together “as a family” just to keep them spending some time together. I think it was easier for them if I was there as a buffer, and harder when they are just with her.

Yes, it took me a bit to realize how they would later view my withholding it. At the time I was really only thinking that they had a right to know why this was happening. Thanks

Thanks for your response. She did have a right to stay, and if she had asked to, I would have had no choice. In fact about a week later we made a brief attempt at reconciliation, and quickly came to the conclusion that it wouldn’t work. She then voluntarily packed up and left for good.

Thanks for that perspective, appreciate the response

I’m sorry that happened. My parents divorced when I was a baby, and I was closer to my dad than my mom. Much later I learned about things that hurt to know, like the fact that my dad beat my mom up so bad she was in the hospital for days. It’s tough learning bad things about people you love. Best to you

I’ve actually been kind of a broker in keeping them connected. The 4 of us were still doing things together, usually at my suggestion, despite my not wanted to see her, so that they would. I tried hard to keep them connected and keep their relationships from falling apart. My thanks is that she more or less robbed me in the divorce, taking as much as she could. She’s on her own with the kids now, I never want to see her again. They do still spend some time together. Both the kids understand that she is their only mom and always will be.

Yeah, they’d wonder and ask for sure. Also, I believe that when they inevitably would learn about it, they’d be upset with me for withholding it from them

Happen to have a link to where it can be purchased?