• RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    I don’t see the point. MFM makes sense to me, that’s doing things I can’t do with one guy. Or if he or I was bi and wanted that kind of threesome, or pileup, that makes sense.

    But if I’m already with the guy I love and enjoy sex with, what’s the point of just doing the same things with someone else? Straight swap I don’t really understand

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      8 months ago

      For swapping to make sense both the husband and wife have to have the same level of desire for sex. The wife definitely has to be orgasmic. And then it becomes just a hobby of wanting a bit of variety of who you fuck. You really have to have the mind set that you are happy in your marriage but sex with others is purely an erotic physical thing.

      • some_guy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        8 months ago

        Sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too but 🤷

        Find someone you like to fuck and you don’t have to worry about dumb shit like this.

          • some_guy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            8 months ago

            lol

            if “don’t be selfish, find someone you love to fuck” is “yukking a yum” y’all are in way too fucking deep.

            get your head out of your ass.

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              8 months ago

              I’m in a 20+ year monogamous relationship. I’m saying keep your head out of your ass and acknowledge that people have sexual preferences that differ from your conservative-ass worldview

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                  8 months ago

                  If their yukking is pissing on your yumming - which is to piss on other people’s pleasures for the sole purpose of hearing your own voice, then I’m yukking too

                  Adults are talking. In fact, no children should be present here at all. If you got nothing productive to add, pipe down.

                  Lifestyles exist beyond the ones you’ve personally chosen to enjoy.

                  You do realize, that not every sign written in another language is talking about you, right? That’s how yr coming off. Tone it back and it’s all good, everyone moves along

                  • some_guy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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                    8 months ago

                    I’m not allowed to have an opinion on the matter because it’s not the opinion you agree with?

                    Classy.

      • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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        8 months ago

        I’m fine (emotionally) with recreational sex, we’ve done play with others no issues just don’t crave variety of partners, it’s the straight swap in particular I don’t get. I do understand different people like different things though.