I think it’s only possible to understand how weird drinking is when you don’t drink. I quit drinking about 10 years ago and it has just become bormal for me to not drink, think about drinking or miss drinking. But people are so weird about it. “You don’t drink? Like never?” “Just a glass?” “But it’s really good” “just try it.” “You can drink a glass and still drive, you know” “woah, i can’t even IMAGINE not to drink.”
Also you start to see how drinking is just the norm. On tinder for example: “beer or wine?” “Let’s meet on a glas of wine or two.” Women who basically brag that they drink wine every day. Women who tell you how important it is to meet on a drink, or drink and talk, ask you about your favourite wine and it goes on and on. I would go as far as the women i see on tinder who have a profile text, about 3/4 mention their alcohol habits or how they are probably drunk right now.
I don’t understand why people have problems with other drinking or taking any drugs for that matter. I rarely drink, since I learned to get the effect I desire from alcohol on my own - but others have clearly fun drinking, so why bother?
“You don’t drink? Like never?” “Just a glass?” “But it’s really good” “just try it.” “You can drink a glass and still drive, you know” “woah, i can’t even IMAGINE not to drink.”
You need to change your social circle or so - I can’t really remember last time someone tried to pressure me into drinking.
Work events are always like that in my experience, I haven’t drank since I had a health issue a couple years ago where the doctor was clear that alcohol must not be taken or the tests will be unable to help me.
Since then all work social events have been hell from people either thinking I’m a recovering alcoholic or terminally ill.
Sure, I would just avoid those people in general, since they don’t respect me - and it’s has nothing to do with alcohol. But than again I don’t have any troubles saying no to alcohol.
I have a problem with alcohol but I would never force someone else to drink. I also don’t know anyone who pressures me to drink when I don’t want to because I don’t hang out with shitty people
That’s why social drinkers have such a hard time quitting, cuz they have a bunch of friends that are only their friends cuz of drinking. In a way I feel blessed that I prefer to drink alone
Look at middle-aged discussion groups on meetup. The ones which involve drinking have the most women (sometimes even a majority) while the others are about 4:1 men.
I think it’s only possible to understand how weird drinking is when you don’t drink.
This German satire video substituting heroin for alcohol might make it a bit easier to understand for those immersed in alcohol culture. Unfortunately it only has auto-translated subtitles for other languages.
I was alcoholic and was drunk 4 days a week. I quit 8 years ago and it’s my best decision. My health improved a lot and my cognitive capacities too.
I can’t remember why I drunk and I now think it was stupid. I just can understand. I’m at the point I can’t even eat a chocolate with alcohol. It’s like vomiting.
The sensation when you’re drunk isn’t plaisant. It’s seriously bad when I think about it.
The drinking culture is here. People are still surprised when you don’t drink. The sometimes don’t understand why. I guess it’s too deep in the cultural conformism.
I quit drinking alcohol as well and looking back on parties and major celebrations I started asking myself if some of the guests were unable to control their alcohol consuption/ were addicted. A few candidates come to mind.
So wouldn’t it be sensible to rule out alcohol at all* to protect those who can’t protect themselves, without confronting them with the very uncomfortable and intimate questions?
*not legally, but I wouldn’t want it on my parties
I think it’s only possible to understand how weird drinking is when you don’t drink. I quit drinking about 10 years ago and it has just become bormal for me to not drink, think about drinking or miss drinking. But people are so weird about it. “You don’t drink? Like never?” “Just a glass?” “But it’s really good” “just try it.” “You can drink a glass and still drive, you know” “woah, i can’t even IMAGINE not to drink.”
Also you start to see how drinking is just the norm. On tinder for example: “beer or wine?” “Let’s meet on a glas of wine or two.” Women who basically brag that they drink wine every day. Women who tell you how important it is to meet on a drink, or drink and talk, ask you about your favourite wine and it goes on and on. I would go as far as the women i see on tinder who have a profile text, about 3/4 mention their alcohol habits or how they are probably drunk right now.
I don’t understand why people have problems with other drinking or taking any drugs for that matter. I rarely drink, since I learned to get the effect I desire from alcohol on my own - but others have clearly fun drinking, so why bother?
You need to change your social circle or so - I can’t really remember last time someone tried to pressure me into drinking.
Work events are always like that in my experience, I haven’t drank since I had a health issue a couple years ago where the doctor was clear that alcohol must not be taken or the tests will be unable to help me.
Since then all work social events have been hell from people either thinking I’m a recovering alcoholic or terminally ill.
In my opinion all work social events (or forced social event as a whole) are hell. To be fair I’m freelancer.
It’s a misery loves company thing, someone being able to refuse alcohol makes them uncomfortable and realize their habit
Not sure I got your point.
Those people who pressure others to drink just want to bring others down with them
Sure, I would just avoid those people in general, since they don’t respect me - and it’s has nothing to do with alcohol. But than again I don’t have any troubles saying no to alcohol.
I have a problem with alcohol but I would never force someone else to drink. I also don’t know anyone who pressures me to drink when I don’t want to because I don’t hang out with shitty people
That’s why social drinkers have such a hard time quitting, cuz they have a bunch of friends that are only their friends cuz of drinking. In a way I feel blessed that I prefer to drink alone
Look at middle-aged discussion groups on meetup. The ones which involve drinking have the most women (sometimes even a majority) while the others are about 4:1 men.
This German satire video substituting heroin for alcohol might make it a bit easier to understand for those immersed in alcohol culture. Unfortunately it only has auto-translated subtitles for other languages.
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I was alcoholic and was drunk 4 days a week. I quit 8 years ago and it’s my best decision. My health improved a lot and my cognitive capacities too.
I can’t remember why I drunk and I now think it was stupid. I just can understand. I’m at the point I can’t even eat a chocolate with alcohol. It’s like vomiting.
The sensation when you’re drunk isn’t plaisant. It’s seriously bad when I think about it.
The drinking culture is here. People are still surprised when you don’t drink. The sometimes don’t understand why. I guess it’s too deep in the cultural conformism.
I quit drinking alcohol as well and looking back on parties and major celebrations I started asking myself if some of the guests were unable to control their alcohol consuption/ were addicted. A few candidates come to mind.
So wouldn’t it be sensible to rule out alcohol at all* to protect those who can’t protect themselves, without confronting them with the very uncomfortable and intimate questions?
*not legally, but I wouldn’t want it on my parties