Just in case anyone needs to hear it: You can absolutely start things in your 30’s and still feel fulfilled by them, even if there’s some 16 year old who is better at them. Do them for you, and don’t compare yourself to others.
(Also maybe don’t make combat sports your thing if you’re prone to that)
Or do compare yourself to others and use that as motivation to get better. I started HEMA a few months ago and still suck at it, but training and sparring with people that are way better than me is what is giving me purpose as I keep thinking “Wow I can’t wait to get as good as them!”
Yeah, for sure there are healthy ways to compare yourself to others. Maybe a better way to put it is don’t let your self-worth or satisfaction be affected by comparison to others.
I started running last year. I’m 33. Just ran my first half marathon in November. I feel better and more capable than I ever did in my 20’s. It’s never too late.
That’s awesome! And like… 33 isn’t really that old to be starting something new anyway, lol. Sometimes we fall into the trap of thinking that everybody peaks in their 20’s, but that is silly.
Just in case anyone needs to hear it: You can absolutely start things in your 30’s and still feel fulfilled by them, even if there’s some 16 year old who is better at them. Do them for you, and don’t compare yourself to others.
(Also maybe don’t make combat sports your thing if you’re prone to that)
Or do compare yourself to others and use that as motivation to get better. I started HEMA a few months ago and still suck at it, but training and sparring with people that are way better than me is what is giving me purpose as I keep thinking “Wow I can’t wait to get as good as them!”
I tend to compare to myself from a x months ago or whatever.
As long as I’m improving I’m happy.
You can’t start something and expect to be better than people who’ve been doing it for years. That’s legit stupid.
Yeah, for sure there are healthy ways to compare yourself to others. Maybe a better way to put it is don’t let your self-worth or satisfaction be affected by comparison to others.
Less pithy though, lol.
I started running last year. I’m 33. Just ran my first half marathon in November. I feel better and more capable than I ever did in my 20’s. It’s never too late.
That’s awesome! And like… 33 isn’t really that old to be starting something new anyway, lol. Sometimes we fall into the trap of thinking that everybody peaks in their 20’s, but that is silly.