I keep seeing this advice from very smart people who have their lives together, “if you want to finish a thing, don’t tell people about it” - and two clicks later there’s other very smart people who also have their lives together going “if you want to finish a thing, tell people about it”. It’s really 50/50 which one you’re going to be told, almost as if it either depends on the individual which one works or it’s entirely meaningless.
Here’s the thing. If you want to finish something you need to finish it. Seems obvious but it’s not. Telling people should not have any real bearing on whether you finish it or not you are still in control whether you tell somebody or not.
There’s a theory, if you want to actually do something don’t tell many people. It’s a common problem, even for those without ADHD.
I keep seeing this advice from very smart people who have their lives together, “if you want to finish a thing, don’t tell people about it” - and two clicks later there’s other very smart people who also have their lives together going “if you want to finish a thing, tell people about it”. It’s really 50/50 which one you’re going to be told, almost as if it either depends on the individual which one works or it’s entirely meaningless.
if you want to finish something, finish it
also, don’t have adhd, or, alternatively, hyperfocus on that one thing at the expense of other things that you actually should be doing
Silly me.
Very true, this much more nuanced take on the issue.
Here’s the thing. If you want to finish something you need to finish it. Seems obvious but it’s not. Telling people should not have any real bearing on whether you finish it or not you are still in control whether you tell somebody or not.
I do this, it’s like if I tell someone then I’m only doing it so I don’t have to tell them I gave up on it