• Lettuce eat lettuce@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    I often end up feeling guilty that I made other people feel uncomfortable when I open up and cry or even get choked up, so I just end up choosing to cry to myself alone.

    Not healthy of me, and definately some internalized toxicity about being tough and whatnot. It’s really tough to break that conditioning though.

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      1 year ago

      If it counts for anything, I and many other women I’ve known, have felt and now do the same thing.
      Sharing emotions is not something socially easy or often acceptable for women either, and emotional women have as many (if not more tbh) negative stereotypes associated with them.

      Humanity is fucked across the board.

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        1 year ago

        I think there is a trend for sure, sorry to hear that. I am trying really hard to be more supportive of folks expressing themselves more openly, especially other men, but it is really tough.

        I’m also not great at comforting people, but that might be learned and conditioned more than any “inherent” ability or aspect of myself. Overall, I am working on being as kind and empathetic as I cam to people, we for sure need more of that in our world.