Any general advice? Don’t try x, or definitely look into y? Be aware of Z?

  • Fiona@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    So far:

    Essentially everything that would have told me a few years ago that my wish to be a woman was REALLY not something that cis-people experience and what the actual diagnostic criteria for gender-dysphoria were.

    I was SOOO close to getting it about 10 years ago, it’s mind-boggling. Like I talked to other trans-people I knew at the time about how I suspected that I was trans, I read up on the topic and in the end stupidly decided that all my issues were only that I was lonely and that the only reason I wanted to be a girl was because it would have made dating so much easier and that that wouldn’t translate into dating as a trans-woman.

    I mean, yes, this was a real problem I had, but there were so many other signs that it was not just that and I completely ignored that cis people would not respond to that problem with the wish for a different gender. It’s really as stupid as it sounds, and it cost me very dearly in so many ways.

    • Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      1 year ago

      Early on(first couple weeks of realizing) I had some similar thoughts, not about dating since I’m married(added to the confusion) but yeah we don’t have other people we regularly talk to or hang out with. I had a lot of back and forth. But I think it was enough of those “Yeah sis, you’re trans” memes that started solidifying it.