Trying to discuss race with white people is like talking to a brick wall. I just tried to talk about racism and got fucking ganged up on by white people swearing that you can only be racist if you intend to be so they aren’t racist as long as they mean well. It’s so fucking entitled when white people start lecturing poc about what’s really racist. God.
Oof, you are 100% describing the fight I got into with my mother in law earlier this year. She is one of those “unintentional racists” (I’m sure she tells herself that to feel better), but when I tried to educate her on why what she said wasn’t cool she got massively defensive.