Because she is moaning about a certain gender’s privilege and the argument is that the limitation that leads to this privilege is entirely inflicted by the presumed limited gender?
The people who make it a problem to wear the same dress twice are at fault. #NotAllWomen #NoMenAtAll
The point is that when the phrase “male privilege” is used, it carries the implication that the patriarchy is responsible. But in this particular case, women have 100% of the power to make the problem go away and men have 0%. Calling it “male privilege” is counterproductive if you actually want to solve the problem rather than just complain about it.
If the victims are the gender without the privilege (as the woman in OP suggests) and the victims are the same group of people who are making individuals in the group feel bad for wearing the same dress twice (as OP suggests) then the victims, as a group, are at fault, it seems to me.
Is an individual woman who wants to wear a dress again at fault? No, but it ain’t a male privilege issue. It’s a culture among women issue.
The woman in OP seems to be going for “this is yet another way the patriarchy is keeping us down” or similar vibe, and although I usually agree with those sorts of assessments and think toxic masculinity is bad for everyone of any gender, this is definitely an own-goal by women.
Insert obi wan kenobi “you have done that yourself” meme here.
Edit: This also assumes I accept the premise put forth by the woman in OP. Based on things I hear (and don’t hear) from my wife and other women in my life, I’m skeptical that the woman in OP is expressing a universal, or even nearly-universal, truth about whether women can wear an outfit twice.
Very true. And if you can explain how that is true here, I’m happy to hear it. Also please see my edit, which may not change your response. I did add a little more.
Ok, but why does the gender of the criticing person matter?
Because she is moaning about a certain gender’s privilege and the argument is that the limitation that leads to this privilege is entirely inflicted by the presumed limited gender?
But that is not relevant to whether or not it is an issue. I feel like this is implies that the victims are at fault.
The people who make it a problem to wear the same dress twice are at fault. #NotAllWomen #NoMenAtAll
The point is that when the phrase “male privilege” is used, it carries the implication that the patriarchy is responsible. But in this particular case, women have 100% of the power to make the problem go away and men have 0%. Calling it “male privilege” is counterproductive if you actually want to solve the problem rather than just complain about it.
If the victims are the gender without the privilege (as the woman in OP suggests) and the victims are the same group of people who are making individuals in the group feel bad for wearing the same dress twice (as OP suggests) then the victims, as a group, are at fault, it seems to me.
Is an individual woman who wants to wear a dress again at fault? No, but it ain’t a male privilege issue. It’s a culture among women issue.
The woman in OP seems to be going for “this is yet another way the patriarchy is keeping us down” or similar vibe, and although I usually agree with those sorts of assessments and think toxic masculinity is bad for everyone of any gender, this is definitely an own-goal by women.
Insert obi wan kenobi “you have done that yourself” meme here.
Edit: This also assumes I accept the premise put forth by the woman in OP. Based on things I hear (and don’t hear) from my wife and other women in my life, I’m skeptical that the woman in OP is expressing a universal, or even nearly-universal, truth about whether women can wear an outfit twice.
Just because woman are doing it doesnt mean it is not the patriachy, you can support and uphold the patriarchy as a woman.
Very true. And if you can explain how that is true here, I’m happy to hear it. Also please see my edit, which may not change your response. I did add a little more.