• Tastysnack [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Where?! Are you being serious? I genuinely don’t get where I’ve misgendered her?

    Oi! don’t fucking drop accusations like that without an example, I’m having a panic attack over this now.

    Do you mean using their as the posessive to mean HER videos?

    I’m sorry but I literally called her she in the same sentence and that should tell anyone I’m referring to what she owns or made and not her fucking gender.

    Im sorry but you’ve absolutely read that the worst most bad faith way to the point it feels intentional.

    You’ve even fucking spoken to me on here in comments and can view my past comments so i don’t get why you’ve chosen to jump on me for what is (according to two other commenters) bad grammar and paint me as someone who would misgender their own community.

    Reaching dickhead.

    Fucking gross, and it hurts doubly when it’s coming from another trans women, how can you do that to one of us?

    Politely what’s your fucking problem?

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      Where?! Are you being serious?

      I was, i either overlooked the “etc.” or somehow didn’t infer from it that you meant a plural “they”. I’m super fucking sorry for this. It was an honest mistake, and if you re-read that sentence in question and leave out the “etc.”, you can probably imagine how i came to these conclusions and how it felt to believe that a trans comrade did that kind of thing to another trans person.

      Once more, i’m really really sorry for misreading you, and for causing that amount of distress. It’s always a particularly awful kind of pain when people from within the community jump at you with such accusations when they’re in the wrong, i know what that’s like, and i should’ve taken a second and reread your sentence before posting to avoid putting you through that kind of shit. That was negligent and careless of me and i should’ve given you more of a benefit of the doubt and double-checked what you wrote. Do you want me to edit that comment or should i leave it up? I really want to make this right and if you want me to remove or edit the comment, it’s the least i can do.

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        So for context this triggered my BPD giga hard and I’m still seething about it because being misrepresented as something I’m not specificially hits harder than other triggers and turns me into an endless firecracker of vitriol and defense mechanisms. As you well know being misrepresented by the media, the cis and trans libs cuts like a rusty blade and makes you feel alone when it comes from your own community.

        So with that the above for context please understand my following reply with my current meltdown and emotional state considered:

        Get fucked, try again another time.

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          You’re absolutely right, i’ll fuck off and leave you alone. If there’s anything you want to tell, you can DM me or message me openly at any point, but i get this isn’t a time where i can do anything to mend the harm i’ve caused and i’m out of here.

      • TC_209 [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        1 year ago

        Both you and Tastysnack clearly have the best interest of yourselves and fellow trans comrades at heart. Sometimes passions can run hot, and we are reminded of the importance of solidarity. <3