UPDATE: The transphobe Ada has been defending says they misgender all trans women/NBs on Blahaj who are strangers - Blåhaj Lemmy
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Further information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer to all people of unknown gender as male. > Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay. > Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the internet is male for strangers. Source: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] WRT the statement that I accused them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026]
    • Alunya𝕏ers [she/her]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
      281·
      1 year ago

      Man and dude: no shit it’s masculine gendering.

      lmfao i encountered a lib who said “dude” is gender neutral somehow. to make matters worse said lib was an enby 🙄🙄🙄

      • Alunya𝕏ers [she/her]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        241·
        1 year ago

        also i pretty much just switched to using “hey y’all” unless i’m specifically greeting a collective of guys/girls/enbies, since “hey guys” still comes off as a bit weird to me. like, i’m not a --- wtf

    • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      20·
      1 year ago

      South Park brained “nonpolitical” “centrist” chuds also like to say “dude” and piously claim that it isn’t gendered.

      • Water Bowl Slime@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        4·
        1 year ago

        But I’ve heard (non-chud) people say “dude” to refer to the person they’re talking to in a gender neutral way. As an interjection, mostly.

        I don’t have any clips to share but I’m positive that Anne from Amphibia calls all her friends “dude”

          • Water Bowl Slime@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
            9·
            1 year ago

            I agree, there’s a lot of people out there that sincerely use dude and guy neutrally. It doesn’t come off very well in text but it’s cool in person, the vibes are chill. Though I completely understand why a lot of people don’t like it.

            And this is a tangent, but my understanding of the word “man” is that it originally meant “person” while the words for adult male and adult female were “were” and “wif” respectively. Then “man” started being used in place of “were”, which fell out of use. And for some reason “wif” became “wifman” and eventually “woman”.

            This boat has long since sailed but I think it’s interesting that “man” used to be a gender neutralish word (boys were still the implied default I think).

    • Thordros [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      16·
      1 year ago

      “Hey everybody,” has been my default for a while now. I don’t understand what’s so hard about making that the norm for some people.

      If I want to be a bombastic show-off on stage (which I like to do sometimes!), I’ll open with, “Welcome, one and all, to… THE THINGY!”

      This isn’t rocket surgery. Even an old asshole like me can be inclusive with next to zero effort.

    • Harrison [He/Him]@ttrpg.networkEnglish
      1·
      1 year ago

      Surely the precise meaning of words like dude, guys etc. is dialect and audience dependant? Use of English can very considerably just across the US and more so internationally.