• RBWells@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.

    What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.

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      3 months ago

      such a weird world… i say, like what you like… don’t obsess or fetishize it…
      i’ve dated some extra short women, they did marvel at my height but it was more of a novelty… standing on things to kiss kinda thing…. it is weird being someone’s “type” because of a couple key physical attributes.

      but almost all women seem really short to me… i usually don’t really notice at first.