obligatory I’m a German nurse living in Germany, but the German channels on lemmy don’t have as many members as this one, so I ask here.

When I work I like to do my job and then relax. To me, doing it the other way round is just stupid. I was never the kind of person that goes to work to socialize, I don’t need it and I strongly resent forced socialization.

For the last 2 years I’ve worked within the same hospital system and it’s clear to me now, nobody thinks like me: all my coworkers spend the first hour of the shift talking about their private lives, as they were looking for excuses not to work and expect anyone else to take care of patients. And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

This is very frustrating and I’m now applying elsewhere, but it bothers me that my new workplace can turn out to be like this.

I’m also applying for office positions (no shifts) and wonder: does this happen there as well? Ideally I’d be completely responsible for my work alone.

I feel like a student at school again, when the teacher forced me to work in a group with the lazier ones and I ended up either doing most of the job or became as lazy as them. Why work when they don’t?

I don’t want to work with people who slow me down.

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    3 months ago

    resent forced socialization.

    is anyone forcing you to socialize? If so, how are you forced?

    And because I’m the only one with this job mentality, it’s always me the one who works while the rest do nothing.

    That sounds to me like there are too many nurses then. If everyone can do nothing and you’re the only one working, that must mean only one nurse is required, right? Did you inform your superiors about this?

    I don’t want to work with people who slow me down.

    How do they slow you down? It seems from your post like they just don’t do much, how does that impact your speed exactly? You say while they talk, you can work. Isn’t that the opposite of slowing you down, they’re actually getting out of your way?

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      I’m not OP, but I’ll go ahead and reply with some possible answers.

      I’ll also just use she/her pronouns (guessing op is a woman), as writing him/her may make my comment more tiring to read, and “they” may make it unclear whether or not i’m referring to OP or OP’s colleagues.

      is anyone forcing you to socialize? If so, how are you forced?

      Shes not literally forced to socialise, but are likely dragged into situations where the consequences of not socialising are worse then just doing it against their will. E.g people getting in a bad mood or being snarky because OP doesnt put on a fake smile and unwillingly exchange pleasantries.

      That sounds to me like there are too many nurses then. If everyone can do nothing and you’re the only one working, that must mean only one nurse is required, right? Did you inform your superiors about this?

      OP didnt exactly say that she has a low workload, and have an easy time completing all those tasks for others. OP is probably doing way more than is expected from one nurse, and may be headed for burnout.

      How do they slow you down? It seems from your post like they just don’t do much, how does that impact your speed exactly? You say while they talk, you can work. Isn’t that the opposite of slowing you down, they’re actually getting out of your way?

      They’re slowing her down because she has to do everyone elses work, thus leaving less time for completing her own tasks. This may also impact the quality of the work she’s originally supposed to do.

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        All valid points, however it seems like no productive conversation is possible with OP.