I’ve only used tinder before and the dude I met there ghosted me after he and his partner broke up. My husband has been encouraging me to look again and I’m feeling a bit better about myself lately so I’m debating checking something out and seeing who might be interested. I’m a post op trans woman for reference.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    15·
    2 months ago

    No such thing. The services for dating are all bot driven now. People end up paying for a service that simply isn’t as advertised.

    Now, hookup services ala grindr, they can do better at finding real people, but it’s hit or miss about making connections that matter. Last I talked to anyone, adult friend finder is kinda decent, but you still run into it being more about hookups than any mid to long term connections. But, since you describe a pretty open situation with your partner, focusing on something that’s going to be non monogamous friendly like that is likely to be a better choice.

    • CautiousCuriosity@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      2·
      2 months ago

      I checked AFF and… I’m not sure if I found the proper website or a kick off. You can’t do anything with a free account right?

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        3·
        2 months ago

        Mostly, yeah, but it’s like grindr; people can use it to date others with a similar mindset regarding sex. Hell, the bdsm/kink sites/services work the same way.

        My best friend met his husband on grindr, and that’s definitely not a “dating” app lol. The intersection of sex and romance is a busy one :)