Have you been in a codependent relationship?
My transition has helped me realize just how bad the codependency was in my marriage. Things are really rough for me currently as we try and untangle the destructive habits.
I have never had a sense of identity outside of my relationship with my wife. Now that is changing, it means my marriage must change with it… or not.
my last ex did this kind of thing with me when i wanted to assert my boundaries by explaining i did not want to be involved in constant death spirals, and then telling me that me leaving them was killing them and also i was crossing their boundaries by asserting my boundaries (???)