I want to meet people around my age who I can spend lots of time with either romantically or just friends or something. I have recently just turned 21 years old and I have never really dated anyone in real life or even kissed anyone. I don’t have a job, I don’t drive and I still live with my parents. I am really just a talentless fool trying to be some sort of artist and taking community college classes without any real idea or direction in life. Am I even deserving of love and friendship here in the 21st century? I want to be a better person but I don’t know if I have the strength to become who I want to really be on my own. Being socially isolated for so long has really affected my mind a lot and how I view myself. I don’t really know what I am or how I can fit in with any group of people. I need some sort of social validation. I would like to have at least one person who understands me well who I can share anything with. What would be the least terrible option for me to meet local strangers via the internet? Or is there some better way of meeting people that I have not considered?

  • FunkyStuff [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    6 months ago

    Oh hey, I have a very similar situation lol, but I have managed to make a few friends who I trust. It’s a slow process.

    I think you might struggle in dating apps, a lot of the people who look for long term stuff would definitely be looking for a partner who has a specific career path and a way to get there. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you’re doing, but I think if you want long term relationships (platonic and romantic) you might be better off connecting with people through your college courses, local activities, and other things that naturally place you in proximity to others. I wouldn’t recommend political organization (I mean, I would, but not as a cure for loneliness) since most people who join any leftist org looking to cure their loneliness tend to be some matter of sex pest.